Make family decisions through mutual consultation: Involving the family in important matters before making a decision ensures closeness among the members. Allah says in the Quran, “… and who (conduct) their affairs by mutual consultation…” [Surah al-Shoora:38].Mutual consultation allows for each member to have a sense of importance and responsibility. Besides, when trying to solve a problem, the more brains that are involved, the better the chances for a solution. Problems can be resolved with one-on-one conversations between parents and children, and other family members. Rather than venting frustrations and focusing on the problems, family members should find ways to engage in conversations where solutions are sought in an amicable manner. Venting frustrations, blaming each other, harsh tones, and demeaning each other not only does not solve problems but also sours relationships and closes all doors for future consultations and trust. Let’s remember the hadith of the prophet where he compared harshness with good behavior. He (s) said, “Allah loves kindness and rewards it in such a way that He does not reward for harshness or for anything else.” (Reported by Muslim, Kitaab al-Birr wa’l-Sillah wa’l-Aadaab, no. 2592).”
Posted on: Thu, 06 Jun 2013 17:13:13 +0000
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