Many have said they do not help their child when asked because they want to build self confidence. How do we build self confidence in our children if we tell them that somebody else knows better than they do? If, when they ask for help, we second guess them by saying You can do it, buddy. I know you can. You dont need my help. (and that is the nicest way to say it.), I believe we are teaching them to second guess themselves. Oh, I guess mom knows what I need better than I do. they might think. Or, I guess I do not really know what I need. I better ask people what I need more often. If this is right, the implications are great and severe. If this is true, we are teaching our children to trust others when it comes to their bodies and needs, rather than themselves. In the interest of keeping the conversation on track- this has *nothing* to do with doing everything for our children. This is speaking specifically to our children asking us for help, and us saying no because we want them to learn to do it on their own, or we want to prove a point. This has nothing to do with saying no because we are physically incapable or to save our mental sanity. I want to be crystal clear: this speaks to us saying no so that our children learn a lesson (like doing it on their own). PLEASE keep the conversation on track. Note: If you are going to vehemently disagree with the thought above (and insist that kids learn something from being forced do to a task on their own no matter what), please read the status update that I have linked in the first comment first, so that we can stay on track.
Posted on: Sat, 01 Feb 2014 17:04:58 +0000
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