Marriage is Sunnah and also half our deen. Its a new door that leads to happiness as it unites two people and creates new familial bonds. When I think of marriage, I think of the Sunnah of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Sall Allahu Alayhi Wa Sallam). I think of love, mercy, compassion, friendship, and happiness. Today we are living in a time where it is very difficult to get married. Culture seems to play a bigger role in marriage than the religion itself which causes much distress among families especially youngsters who suffer the most. If I ask a young Muslim Brother why he hasnt married? He would say, I do not have the means to support a wife, I am looking for a job. Another would say, I havent found the right person. Then, the excuses build up. When I ask the Muslim Sisters, They say education and some say i want who is established etc While all these great excuses and cultural barriers between parents build up, the people remain unmarried for a very long time. This is when I have found many people getting depressed. Some have lost hope and think that they will never get married. Even i am even struggling to get married but i have hope So brothers & sisters, if any offer comes; first look into the proposal you receive because they are a blessing from Allah Subhana Wa Taala and do not reject them unless you have a good reason (Advice to my self first and to everyone Inshallah) The reason for mentioning all this is to remind my dear brothers and sisters in Islam not to despair if you feel you cannot get married at the moment. Allah will have someone for you. Do not lose hope thinking that you will never get married. Here are a few steps that may facilitate the process of marriage: 1.► Maintain a good relationship with Allah Subhana Wa Taala. The other day I reflected upon this thinking to myself, if I do not have a good relationship with Allah then how will I expect myself to have a good relationship with others? Work on your relationship with Allah Subhana Wa taala. Leave your sins and take yourself to account. Check your attitude towards others daily including your anger level, character, patience and if its faltering, work on it. Also when it comes to Salah, rush for it. Pray with Khushoo. Remember, the happiest person is the one who submits himself to Allah. 2.► Tell your parents. If you are closer to your mum or dad, tell them. In other cases, if you have a big brother or a sister who is closer to you, ask them to talk to your parents on your behalf. Try to convince them with a kind attitude. If you are good to your parents, they will definitely listen to you. 3.► Make lots of duas. I have known a few sisters who have made lots of duas for righteous husbands. I have seen them very happy in life MashaAllah. Furthermore, make sure to wake up in the night for Tahajjud and ask Allah for a good spouse. Once you have done that, keep making dua until a good proposal comes to you. Do not stop no matter what. This is where Saytan will get to you! Do not Stop! 4.► Put your complete trust in Allah. The Imaan of a person cannot be true until he has more trust in that which is in Allahs Hands than that which is in his own hands. -- Ali (ra) 5.► Always remember after hardship comes ease. So be patient. Life is like a coin. Pleasure and pain are the two sides. Only one side is visible at a time. But remember other side is waiting for its turn. 6.► When things go wrong always say: Allah (Alone) is Sufficient for us, and He is the Best Disposer of affairs (for us). -- Surah Al Imran 173 It doesnt matter if you get rejected by someone. You never know whats the good behind it. Allah says in the Quran: It may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know. -- Al-Quran 2: 216 7.► Increase in worship. Start fasting every Mondays and Thursdays. It is Sunnah! Fasting helps you and you can make lots of duas while you are fasting. 8.► Read Quran daily and reflect upon it. It doesnt matter if you do not get what you want here in this world, you still have the Hereafter. You have not lost anything. The affairs of a believer are good both in this world and the hereafter. 9.► Keep doing good deeds and give more charity. Surely, Allahs Mercy is [ever] near unto the good-doers.-- Al-Quran 7:56 Know that Paradise is not far away. So work hard for it and compete with other believers in righteousness. The Prophet Mohammad said, Paradise is nearer to anyone of you than the Shirak (leather strap) of his shoe, and so is the (Hell) Fire. -- Sahih Al Bukhari Last I want to say -► Good things come to those who wait. Better things come to those who try. Best things come to those who believe. Desired things come to those who pray. May Allah make it easy on the people who are seeking marriage and help us to fulfil half of Imman -- Ameen 》ρlεαsε ☞ ✔ ◊ Duä ✔ ◊ Like ✔ ◊ Comment ✔ ◊ Shäre⇘
Posted on: Tue, 13 Jan 2015 17:37:05 +0000
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