Marry Your Friend: what you need to know. When it comes to marriage, there are several school of thoughts that many people practice. One of them is the popular cliche of marrying your friend. Seeing that they appear true, many people have followed them without having to consult the Creator of marriage or His instruction manual. This has led to the collapse of many marriages and have wounded the people involved in such union. You cannot have a successful marriage with your wisdom or man’s philosophy other than the Creator’s own. Marriage isn’t a product of man’s invention, it was grafted into his instinct by God. Before you’d marry your friend, know what He says. A friend is someone you know well and regard with affection and trust. True in the human sense but there’s more to that in marriage. If friends were to be what you think they are, marriages ought not to have failed as many people claimed to have married their friends. Don’t get me wrong, it is good to marry your friend but do you know what your friend would become few years from now or you’re truly sure of the person you thought you knew? I have carefully outlined the reasons why this cliche won’t work and they are as follows. #1 You may be Friends but not compatible in Marriage There are casual, fair weather or very close friends. But in the context of marriage, you two may not be best suited for each other. There are friends who you cannot relate well with when it comes to certain aspect of life. It takes agreement in major areas for marriage to work (Amos 3:3). There must be agreement in your purpose in life. Don’t marry a pastor if you don’t like one. If you two disagree on what you feel its important, a compromise would be a terrible thing to do. Your best friend may not be your suitable help meet. Let God guide you. #2. You don’t know the End from the Beginning As human, your ability to see into the future is limited. You can hope for a better future but your hope cannot make a person better. Do you know what he or she may likely become in the future? I’m sure you don’t. Instead of taking the future into your own hands, it’s best you leave it in God’s hands. Let God speak instead of him/her. A man or woman could seem loving and faithful but in the future when the tides turn over, they are likely to change. Know this, even if God orchestrated your union, humans are susceptible to change but you can easily run back to God to help you. What do you think would happen if you marry your friend without God’s approval? To understand the validity of this cliche, you need to get God’s guidance when it comes to choosing a partner. When God directs you on who to marry and you’re sure of it, then you need to become friends with that person after you must have followed the necessary protocol relating to your church pre-marriage setup< cultural practice or family values. After that, you two needs to take time to build friendship. It wasn’t immediately that God brought Eve to Adam that they became married. Courtship period should also be a time for friendship. Develop a liking and know as much as you can about your friend. It takes time to build friendship and you must be patient to build it otherwise you’d mess up your relationship thinking you’re ready for marriage. Take time to build attention, affection, a listening ear, commitment and love. These are the elements that most courtship lacked before marriage came into view. Do not operate your life (marital) on man’s philosophy, opinions or worldly pattern; let God guide you. Becoming best of friends since childhood isn’t enough to make a successful marriage. There are many things your head knowledge cannot understand or know when it comes to choosing who to marry. After God must have guided you on who to marry, become best of friends and later marry your friend. Isn’t it better this way? Do not marry a friend you’re not sure God is leading you to otherwise your relationship will end in crisis. The best way to find a friend is to be one and it is not the lack of love but the lack of friendship that ends marriage. #Ceo_Caleb
Posted on: Tue, 25 Nov 2014 21:54:22 +0000
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