Mom Post: Some back info: we have 50/50 custody of my 2 step daughters age 5 & 7. BM lives in a different town then us 20 minutes away. My step daughters legal address is ours as they go to school in our town and we have them mon-fri. She puts in minimal effort and is very difficult to co-parent with. In may she broke up with her boyfriend who was the sole provider as she didnt work so this has changed his situation significantly. She was barely taking the girls all summer as her new job was during her time on the weekends (she took them one weekend a month from may-oct) we confronted her about changing the parenting plan to one weekend a month and extra time as agreed to provide stability for the children as it was very confusing and hard on them to never know if they were seeing her this weekend or not because she wouldnt tell us until thursday or friday if they could come over or not. (we have seen SERIOUS behavioral issues start in my youngest that she said we happening at her house 5-6 months prior to the break up but never were happening at our house) As of september she was homeless but when confronted about a legal change to the parenting plan in october she refused saying she got a new job not on the weekends and place to live and things would be going back to normal. We found out that the first weekend they went to stay with her at her new place she went to work within a few hours of them getting there and it was very upsetting and uncomfortable for them. we took them saturday night to avoid the over night babysitter and found out when we brought them back sunday the same situation happened. My older step daughter was so upset that she cried to the point of puking and the babysitter wouldnt allow her to call us! BM says that she is making the sacrifices she needs to as a parent and the girls just need to adjust just like any new situation. (she is very good at wording things like she is being a responsible parent when really she is making the bad situation) The thing that is really bothering us the most is on top of it being a pretty uneasy thing to swallow that our children are going to be with a babysitter over night is it is an 18 year old boy that she has only known for a few months that wont allow them to call us when they ask! I think this is very inappropriate and my step daughters are beyond uncomfortable with it. Sorry that was long but my question is: is this something we can fight her on in court? would we have a legit case? (i have written a timeline of all contact with her and the endless conflict on her end and the constant mess of dealing with her and all her absences) She thinks this is completely acceptable. She agrees that if one parent is available while the other works they should be with the available parent but that leaves us driving them back and forth to her saturday and sunday and its never a smooth transition (she never follows through on plans that are always last minute and messy to begin with, times are always changing, she never has gas, car breaks down, she sick etc. etc. etc.) No bashing please ~o(Astarte)o~
Posted on: Wed, 12 Nov 2014 03:31:16 +0000
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