Most people today believe children need parents and teachers to constantly praise them and tell them how proud of them we are in order for our children to have good self-esteem. But what children and teens really need is to build self-worth by being proud of themselves. They develop this foundational strength when they are convinced of the following: • They are LOVED unconditionally • They are ACCEPTED for who they are • And that we, their parents and teachers, are FULLY CONFIDENT they have what it takes to be successful and to accomplish the tasks before them. Parents need to begin developing this in children from the time they are toddlers. We ought to let our 15 month old child learn to use a spoon to feed himself. Will he make a mess? Yes, he will make a colossal mess. Expect it. Prepare for it. But let him do it. Notice what happens when he is able to do it. You will not have to tell him how proud you are of him; he will tell you how proud he is of himself. “Momma, I do it!” he will say with great delight. Instead of repeatedly reciting to our children how proud we are of them, think of building self-esteem in the context of asking them, “Now, aren’t you proud of yourself?” Thinking of self-esteem in this framework causes you to change your emphasis from what YOU can say or do to build confidence in your child to HOW you can promote the development of inner strength by helping your child achieve success in things previously difficult for him. All parents who want their children to have good self-worth need to read this article. empoweringparents/how-to-build-self-esteem-in-children-and-teens.php?utm_medium=email&utm_source=email07232013CXB&spMailingID=42131404&spUserID=MzQ4NTczOTcyOAS2&spJobID=195625814&spReportId=MTk1NjI1ODE0S0
Posted on: Wed, 24 Jul 2013 12:03:10 +0000
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