Mum question - needing support.My almost 11 month old is still bf and co-sleeping (until about a week or 2 ago). Im pregnant with my second and I think Ive lost my milk, she is only nursing 2-3 times a day and only for around 10-30 seconds. Bub has recently learned to crawl, this wouldnt be an issue only we are currently visiting family so we are in a normal bed rather than our king size floor bed. After much pressure from family, who have been telling me for months that I need to get her out of our bed anyways, I bought a cot and have been attempting to get her to sleep in there. I know its for her safety but it is breaking my heart. She screams. Every. Single. Nap! In 3 days She has gone from being a baby who never cried at bedtime and was asleep in minutes to being a child who screams at the sight of the cot and will continue to cry until she finally passes out from exhaustion. Everyone keeps telling me she will get over it and it will get easier I really dont believe them. She seems just as traumatised as the first time and the look of sheer terror on her tiny face is just devastating. I have been trying to put her down and leave for a few minutes then return because if I stay she just tries to stand up for me to pick her up. so I sit and the door and listen to my baby howl and thrash around the cot. I go in and calm her and tuck her back in and she screams just as much if not more. I feel like Im the worst mother ever. Both of us have been sleeping a lot worse, and both our moods are suffering as a consequence. The biggest issue is that now Ive started she has already decided that she just will not ever go to sleep she now fights sleep regardless of where I try to put her down. Sorry this is repetitive and rambling. Im just feeling so gutted and disgusted that I went against all of my instincts because I was pressured and my worst fears have come true. My happy sleeper is now a grumpy sleep fighter Thanks for listening. Pinky says: Huge hugs!!! Pressure from family is tough, especially when you are sharing their home. Please dont beat up on yourself - to help reconnect you will have to go back a few steps and build up her trust again. I explain how to do this in my book Sleeping Like a Baby. shopwithpinky/sleeping-like-a-baby
Posted on: Fri, 24 Oct 2014 03:30:00 +0000