Mum question:Back in 2011 i started seeing my ex boyfriend again, we thought wed give it another go. In May of 2012 i conceived our daughter, when i first told him he was happy a week later he gave me an ultimatum, it was either him or the baby and i chose the baby. I was 10 weeks pregnant when i found out. He then decided to end our rship and disappeared for 9 months. He reappeared when our daughter was born but he was only interested in being in her life (which was fine with me). From the time she was born i allowed him to visit her 3 times a week over a 1.5 hours a day. When hed come over i allowed him to spend quality time w his daughter and i would be upstairs. When she turned 9 months i decided it was time he could pick her up and spend time with her in his own environment ( bc him coming over wad making me feel sick, he was still very angry at me for having the baby and i started suffering from anxiety) bc i didnt want him around me. Our daughter is now 21 months old and he has been taking her every fortnight and ive always said to him if he wanted to spend more time w her he can always pick her up (we dont have any court orders). But hes was never interested in having her weekly, only fortnightly. In the time that i was pregnant he had met another girl (20 years younger than him) & they are still together. We had a chat the other day and i advised him that it looked like he was getting serious with this female so i asked him if i could meet her. Only bc if she was going to be around him she will also be around my daughter so i just wanted to get a feel of who she is, intentions etc. He advised the she was too scared to meet me. (I wonder what pic he has painted of me for her to feel that way).. Am i being unreasonable in wanting to meet her one on one to have a chat? Anyone else going through anything similar?
Posted on: Mon, 03 Nov 2014 03:00:00 +0000