Mum question:I have a wonderful 3yo son (turned 3 in June), and am 34 weeks pregnant. My husband is away on a training course, hes been gone 2.5 weeks with 2.5 weeks to go til he gets home. I am also working 4 days a week as a high school teacher, which means i have lots of marking and preparation work that needs to be done in the evenings. My problem is that our dinner, bath, story/milk, brush teeth and bed routine is taking 2+ hours! Tonight dinner was on the table at 6pm, and mr 3 is only just asleep now at 10pm (although he was in bed at 8, he keeps calling out or getting up... every excuse under the sun)!! I am up at 6:30 in the morning, and such late nights are exhausing me... as i still have work for school to do after hes asleep. If i leave the work, it just piles up and i am feeling more and more stress and pressure. Late nights are also affecting mr 3 with tantrums on the increase (we had an hour long tantrum this morning trying to get in the car to go to kindy/school). I try to be a gentle parent, but am beginning to wonder if i am being too gentle and allowing him to get away with too much. Likely he is just missing daddy, and this is just his way of clinging to me instead... but i am still struggling. Do you have any suggestions? Pinky says: Hugs - its huge trying to do it all by yourself. Please dont think you are letting him get away with it . He is probably just trying to get his little emotional tank filled. Kids sense when we try and rush them - its difficult to be present when you are stressed about getting everything done. Something that works really well at this age is to try meditations at bedtime - have a look at the books by Maureen Garth. Otherwise try Dinasnores - these are lovely meditation style stories either on CD or downloadable. They help kids really relax and go off to sleep. Also staying with your little one in the darkened room with a hand on them or a cuddle can help them calm and fall asleep more easily. Your presence for 15 minutes is an investment in filling that little emotional tank as well as ensuring they get to sleep without popping out again and again and having your energy and theirs full of stress hormones. Maureen garth meditations (check out ABC stores) https://shop.abc.net.au/t/artists/maureen-garth Dinasnores - dinosnores
Posted on: Wed, 29 Oct 2014 22:15:00 +0000
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