[Must read, please… it is a great piece of information] It is Sunnah to choose a beautiful woman, because it is gives a greater sense of tranquility and is more likely to help him lower his gaze and love her more. Hence Islam prescribes looking (at ones fiancée) before marriage. It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: It was said: O Messenger of Allaah, which of women is best? He said: “The one who, when he looks at her he feels happy, when he tells her to do something she obeys him, and she does not go against his wishes with regard to herself or his wealth.” Narrated by Ahmad (2/251); classed as hasan by al-Albaani in al-Silsilah al-Saheehah (1838). End quote. Some scholars regard it as mustahabb, if a man wants to propose marriage to a woman, to start by asking about her beauty first, then about her religious commitment. That is because it is known that people seek beauty first and foremost. Imam al-Bahooti said in Sharh Muntaha al-Iraadaat (2/621): The Prophet [peace be upon him] advised his Companions [may Allah be pleased with all of them] to look at the woman after asking for her hand for the sake of establishing a stable marital life. When Al-Mugheerah ibn Shu‘bah [may Allah be pleased with him] wanted to marry, the Prophet [peace be upon him] advised him to: “Go and look at her, so that there may be mutual affection, and understanding between you.” [At-Tirmithi] According to this Hadeeth, one is permitted to look at the woman with the intention of marrying her but not with the intention of simply seeking pleasure, as that is prohibited. When we examine the marital life of the Prophet [peace be upon him] we find that he was the best husband to his wives. He would say: “The best of you are those who treat their wives best, and I am the best amongst you in treating his wives.” [Ibn Maajah] The Prophet [peace be upon him] would race ‘Aaishah [may Allah pleased with her] to bring joy to her heart. He also nicknamed her ‘AAISH in a way to be amiable and gentle with her. He also used to tell her stories and chat with her and he listened to her when they conversed. Moreover, the Prophet [peace be upon him] would lower his shoulders so that ‘Aaishah [may Allah be pleased with her] could cling to him and watch the Abyssinians playing in the mosque. This was done so that she would be entertained. He also fed her and gave her drinks with his own noble hands, and he was keen to drink from the same part of the cup from which she drank. These are good examples of marital treatment that leads to the development of affection and mercy between the spouses.
Posted on: Tue, 28 Jan 2014 01:58:32 +0000
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