My TBT Photo! 15 years ago today, my husband, Steve and I said I Do. He, Alexandra Nicole and I became a little family. Sadly, as with the majority of marriages today, our isnt going to be until death do us part. That doesnt mean that we shouldnt celebrate the love we shared 15 years ago, and still share today. Steve and I decided about a year ago that at the very least, our marriage deserved counseling with our Pastor at FBBC. We had no expectations but agreed to have open minds. At the very least, we our marriage would have the proper closure. We laughed; we cried;we shared what drew us to the other and what drew us apart; we wrote each other letters (assignment), and we agreed that we still loved each other. However, Steve didnt feel he was in love and didnt know if he could get that feeling to return. Ironically, our next session was to discuss Love is a Decision - Not a Feeling! (little reminder for you married folk). Unfortunately our pastor suffered a serious accident which keep him away from church for months. Steve decided he didnt want to go back when Pastor returned. He was ready to move forward in his life. Soooooooooo, to all of you wonderful people who called, texted, e-mailed, and stopped by for support - thank you and I love you for loving me! But for me, today is just like any other day! Steve and I are friends and he calls every year to let me know that he cares and that today is and will always be a special day for him (and to make sure Im ok), Today was no exception and next 9/11/15 when it isnt an actually anniversary, he will still call to say that this is a special day! Neither Steve nor I chose to focus on the end of a relationship, but the love and adoration we felt for each other on 9/11/99! On that day, I was the love of his life, #loveofhislife and he was my one true love, #onetruelove. After all, we all know that Alexandra Nicole is the LOVE OF MY LIFE! On that day, I never got tired of hearing from his entire family, This is the happiest hes ever been, We couldnt wait for him to marry you, and my absolute favorite was what all his friends told me. He was incomplete without you, I even think that was BEFORE the Jerry McGuire you complete me rage!!! You ALL know what I always say ...... You cant start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one! I know that recently someone sent a text to my daughter of an instagram post with that same saying. How sweet of that person to be so concerned and worried about me. So with all that said ..... I want to celebrate my marriage to Steve. He is a wonderful man and never have I said differently. He has continued to take care of me during the trials and tribulations of our separation, and has insisted on taking care of me when the divorce is final. What man today would give his estranged wife their home because he knew how much she and his daughter LOVE the house and then ensured that we would never loose the house. And for those who have wondered why we have remained married and didnt jump to a divorce ---- when a man and woman continue to take care of each other during what is normally the ugliest time in a marriage one needs to ask ..... Would this marriage have worked if marriage was still for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, until death do you part and had not been turned into dating with a legal contract... when something gets too difficult, your feelings get hurt, or something better comes along, you simply pay a little fee (or in some case a HUGE fee) to move on to your next girlfriend, uhm, I mean wife! :-) With that said ....... Id love to celebrate 9/11/99 with all of you that were so concerned about me today and I want to leave everyone who takes the time to read this novel with my whole take on #marriage, #divorce, #exwife, #2ndwife, #probablyathridfourthandfifthwife, The original Mrs. Steven Anthony Cantatore will often be imitated, but can never be duplicated! Can I hear a True Dat! At least, I think thats what the young ones are saying these days! Dang, when did the youth get so lazy that they cant spell out a word fully! :-P There is definitely a HUGE generation and maturity gap between the 20s-30s and the 40s and over! lol
Posted on: Thu, 11 Sep 2014 22:56:16 +0000
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