Neglected Sunan Concerning Gifts - Prophet: Gift one another so you may love one another Abu Hurrairah (radiAllaahu anhu) narrated: The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: تَهَادُوا تَحَابُّوا Tahaadu tahaabu (Gift one another so you may love one another.) [Al-Adab Al-Mufrad (no. 594); authentic] A student said: And this is something (neglected) in many places - a Sunnah that is (neglected) in many places. Many of us go to our brother and say, Akhee, do you need anything? Thats a mistake. Dont go to anyone and ask them, Do you need anything? Because when you ask them, Do you need anything?, if they say yes, they are humiliating themselves in front of you. They are lowering themselves in front of you. If you want to give, then give! Dont ask him if he needs something. This is an error! This is an error that is widespread. Again, out of good thoughts for the people, maybe it was a misunderstanding. Thats why Abdullaah ibn Abbaas (radiAllaahu anhuma) said to his cousin: The best way that you could give someone something is without them asking for it, because when they ask for it, they are humiliating themselves in front of you. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: تَهَادُوا تَحَابُّوا Tahaadu tahaabu (Gift one another so you may love one another.) [Al-Adab Al-Mufrad (no. 594); authentic] - Gifting a flower Abu Hurrairah (radiAllaahu anhu) narrated: Allaahs Messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: He who is presented with a flower should not reject it, for it is light to carry and pleasant in smell. [Muslim, Chapter: Using Misk (Musk), Which Is The Best Of Perfume. It Is Disliked To Refuse A Gift Of Scent Or Perfume] So gifting and accepting a flower (or itr, perfume) is also from the Sunnah. - Gifting, Feeding neighbors Aa`ishah (radiAllaahu anha) narrated: I said: Oh Messenger of Allaah! I have two neighbors. Which of them should I give a gift to? The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: (Give) to the one whose door is nearer to you. [Bukhaaree, In the Book of Gifts and their Excellence] Abu Hurrairah (radiAllaahu anhu) narrated: Allaahs Messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: Oh Muslim women! None of you should consider insignificant a gift to give to her neighbor even if it is a gift of the trotters of a sheep. [Bukhaaree, Muslim] Whenever Abdullaah ibn Amr ibn Al-Aas (radiAllaahu anhumma) used to slaughter and eat meat, he would ask his servant if any meat was delivered to his Jewish neighbor, and would order for some of the meat to be sent to his Jewish neighbor. And he said: Verily, I heard the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) say: Jibreel kept emphasizing (the rights and kind treatment of) the neighbor so much so that I thought (the neighbor) would inherit from me. [Bukhaaree, Muslim, Al-Adab al-Mufrad, Abu Daawood, at-Tirmidhee; also narrated by Aa`ishah and Ibn Umar (radiAllaahu anhum)] Abu Dharr (radiAllaahu anhu) narrated: Allaahs Messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: When you make some soup, add to it a lot of water and be mindful of your neighbors. [Muslim] People of knowledge have said: This ruling is to be treated as compulsory if the neighbor is a poor one. But if ones neighbor is a rich one, then this ruling is to be treated as a matter of preference. Imaam Muhammad Ibn Saalih Al-Uthaimeen (d. 1421H, rahimahullaah) said: This hadeeth shows the importance of good relations with our neighbors, and at the same time strengthen ties and relations with neighbors. A little occasional gift, a small symbolic present, on various occasions will also strengthen ties and relationships between neighbors. Islaam urges believers to be kind, generous to their own neighbors. One of the essential rights of a neighbor is to cause no physical, mental or spiritual* harm to him. [Essential Rights] Imaam Abdul-Azeez ibn Abdullaah Ibn Baaz (d. 1420H, rahimahullaah) said: Do not limit yourselves in this regard, giving a gift only to the poor; rather, give gifts to your rich neighbors as well. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: The best neighbor - with Allaah - is the one from them who deals most honorably with his neighbor. [at-Tirmidhee, Ahmad, Ad-Daarimi, Hakim; authentic] [Explanation of Important Lessons] Shaykh Ahmad al-Wasaabee (hafidhahullaah ala as-Sunnah) said: There are three categories of a neighbor: a- A relative and Muslim: This neighbor has three rights: the right of Islaam, the right of kin, and the right of being a neighbor. b- A Muslim: This neighbor has two rights: the right of Islaam and the right of being a neighbor. c- A disbeliever: This neighbor has one right, the right of being a neighbor. And he has the right of your naseehah (sincere advise), and your sincere want for him to embrace Islaam. The neighbor who is a disbeliever has the right to be called to Islaam, and to be taught Islaam, and for Islaam to be explained to him. - Other Ahadeeth Concerning Gifts and their Excellence Azra bin Thabit Al-Ansari narrated: When I went to Thumama bin Abdullaah, he gave me some perfume and said that Anas would not reject the gifts of perfume. Anas (radiAllaahu anhu) said: The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) used not to reject the gifts of perfume. [Bukhaaree, In the Book of Gifts and their Excellence] Ibn Abbaas (radiAllaahu anhumma) narrated: The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: One who takes back his gift (which he has already given) is like a dog that swallows its vomit. [Bukhaaree, In the Book of Gifts and their Excellence] Ibn Umar (radiAllaahu anhumma) narrated: The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: It is not lawful for a Muslim to give a gift and then take it back except a father regarding what he gives to his child. [Ahmad, at-Tirmidhee] Asma` (radiAllaahu anha) narrated: The Messenger of Allaah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: Give (in charity) and do not give reluctantly lest Allaah should give you in a limited amount. And do not withhold your money lest Allaah should withhold it from you. [Bukhaaree, In the Book of Gifts and their Excellence] Amir narrated: I heard An-Numan bin Basheer on the pulpit saying: My father gave me a gift but Amra bint Rawaha (my mother) said that she would not agree to it unless he made the Messenger of Allaah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) a witness to it. So, my father went to the Messenger of Allaah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) and said: I have given a gift to my son from Amra bint Rawaha, but she ordered me to make you a witness to it, oh Messenger of Allaah (صلى الله عليه وسلم)! The Messenger of Allaah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) asked: Have you given (the like of it) to everyone of your sons? He replied in the negative. The Messenger of Allaah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: Fear Allaah, and be just to your children. My father then returned and took back his gift. In another narration: The Messenger of Allaah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) asked: Do you not expect goodness from all of them as you expect from him? He said: Yes, of course. The Messenger of Allaah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: Then dont do this (i.e., do not give a gift to one son only). [Bukhaaree, Muslim] This hadeeth indicates that a parent should not favor some of his children over others as regards to gifts or privilege - some of them to the exclusion of the others - they are all his children. The Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: Treat your children justly, treat your children justly, treat your children justly. [An-Nasaa`ee, Abu Daawood, Ahmad] Abu Hurrairah (radiAllaahu anhu) narrated: Whenever a meal was brought to the Messenger of Allaah (صلى الله عليه وسلم), he would ask whether it was a gift or Sadaqah (something given in charity). If he was told that it was Sadaqah, he would tell his companions to eat it. But if it was a gift, he would hurry to share it with them. [Bukhaaree, In the Book of Gifts and their Excellence] As is known, the Messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم) was prohibited from receiving Sadaqah. In these are further lessons for us, that whatever of good there is - if it truly is good - you will find it purely in Islaam without the accompanying matters of Kufr (disbelief), bidah (heresy), and dhulm (oppression) that come with unlegislated celebrations, deviant methodologies, and the like. Islaam is a complete and Perfect Religion. Allaah, Subhanahu wa Taaala, said: الْيَوْمَ أَكْمَلْتُ لَكُمْ دِينَكُمْ وَأَتْمَمْتُ عَلَيْكُمْ نِعْمَتِي وَرَضِيتُ لَكُمُ الإِسْلاَمَ دِينا ...This day, I have perfected your religion for you, completed My Favor upon you, and I am pleased with Islaam as your religion... (Al-Maa`idah, ayah 3) Allaahs Messenger (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said: By Him in Whose Hand is my soul. I have not left anything which brings you closer to Paradise and distances you from the Fire except that I have commanded you with it. And I have not left anything which brings you closer to the Fire and distances you from Paradise except that I have prohibitted you from it. [Ahmad, Ibn Khuzaimah] Abu Remlah Adam Amreeki (hafidhahullaah ala as-Sunnah) relayed that Shaykh Abu Muhammad Ahmad as-Subayee (hafidhahullaah ala as-Sunnah) said: Shaikh-ul-Islaam Ibn Taymeeyah (d. 728H, rahimahullaah) said: The stronger a slaves Eemaan (is) in the completeness of the Religion, the further he is from deviating from it. - Scholarly Benefits Regarding Gifts (From The Permanent Committee for Scholarly Research and Ifta` - unless otherwise noted - each via AlIfta) - The following are the conditions for a gift to be valid: 1- Proposal and acceptance. For example, the giver proposes to give a certain gift to another who expresses acceptance in any way whether verbally or practically; 2- The actual gift should be known, meaning, one should gift a known object; 3- Ability to deliver the gift. It will not be valid if the gift is undeliverable; 4- The gift should not be a purchased object that has not yet been received; 5- The gift should not be contingent on a future condition; 6- In case of ones children, justice must be observed. A parent may not give a gift specifically to one child while depriving other children; 7- The gift must not be meant for bribery, such as gifts for workers, e.g. An employee giving a gift to his supervisor or a student giving a gift to his teacher in public schools. - It is recommended for the one who is given a gift to requite by giving something similar or better. However, the people of the village should not oblige a poor person to requite them giving them gifts like those they gave him. Rather, the proper Shar`ee (Islaamically Legislative) behavior is that a Muslim gives a gift expecting nothing in return, only hoping for the reward of Allaah (Subhanahu wa Taaala). Thus, anyone who is given a gift is not obliged to give anything in return to the giver.
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