OWN YOUR LIFE, IT IS YOURS! Managing your life is one of the most important skills you must develop. Your time, space and feelings are a very critical part of your lifes resources and when resources are not managed, they become useless. I believe that successful people are not so just because luck fell on them, they are so because they have best practices that guide and guard their time so as to ensure maximum fruitfulness. From managing family, friends and colleagues, these people exercise a discretion that bears success. Most of us want to be seen as friendly and approachable to people. We want to be nice and kind most of the time because there is a natural feeling that such behavior endears us toward people. After all, people are happier working and living with a person that they get on with. However, an excess of this desire to be kind can really mess you up because most people are not mature enough to demarcate where friendliness ends and where respect starts. Youll sometimes have to make tough decisions regarding people in your circle, because some people will always be tempted to take advantage of your relationship if youre too friendly with them. This doesnt mean that you cant socialize with people. But, you need to get the balance right between being a friend and ensuring your life does not end up as a joke. As a personal principle, i believe in controlled access into my life. And i advise you to do the same. Dont be too accessible. Your space is not for all the people all the time. Unchecked access breeds familiarity and familiarity breeds contempt. If you want to be a leader in whatever capacity, manage and regulate your accessibility. There is great power in learning how to be strong, comfortable and satisfied being alone. Many people have no idea about the internal well of personal power you can draw from, each time you spend time by yourself. Dont neglect that awesome privilege by always seeking to drink from polluted wells in other people while your well remains abandoned or even untapped. Be fine alone. Enjoy seclusion and aloneness. You can be alone and not lonely. Filling your space with endless noise, non-stop company and incessant activity is counter productive. If you truly want to be fruitful in what you do, you must overcome the need to satisfy everybody and the compulsion to please people. Managing your personal time and limiting personal access to a modest degree is not merely prudent, it is self respect, personal leadership and a cue to how people respond to you or behave around you. Learn to keep yourself company. Say no. No is also an answer. You dont have to listen to everything people want to say. You are not the experiment ground for peoples projects and the new things they are trying in their lives. Act busy even when you are not. Let people know that you love them and care deeply but you are not sitting around waiting for their call, their impromptu visit or spontaneous plot. Teach people around you to respect your time, honor your schedule and request for your attention when they need it. However African and nice it sounds, being always available and at the disposal of everyone will wear you down, cripple you up, steal your time and leave you wrinkled like chewed gum. Withdraw yourself from circulation, hide yourself sometimes and allow people to miss you. Say no to idle talk and enjoy saying it. Talk less; people that talk less, get listened to more. Show me your friends and i will show you who are about to become. Dont be friends with idlers, busy bodies and unwise people. Such folk have a natural tendency to drain you, waste your time and steal your dreaming prowess. Giving your time and attention to them is not kindness and care, it is endorsing their wayward characteristics. It is possible, in fact, it is very rewarding to spend time with people that are productive and successful at what they are already doing. Genuine joy is infectious; look for and associate with friends that leave you challenged and motivated not drained and depleted. People who are already busy in their lives and have their lives going already will always bring more value to yours. Carry yourself with a friendly disposition, a warm face and a hospitable attitude but make it your personal slogan that; if you have nothing to do, dont do it here. Have a stand. The sole reason why idlers get attracted to you is because they see one of their kind either in the way you carry yourself or in the way you dont carry yourself. You are not just known by the company you keep but by the company you shun. Each time you stand for nothing, you will definitely fall for anything so when it comes to having and owning a direction for your life, be unapologetic. Live for something and be clear about it. Be firm and non-ambiguous. The courage to grow continually in your life will not always be welcome to mediocre people. They will fight and intimidate you into staying small and manageable so they can run your life to make themselves feel significant. Dont donate that right; it is yours! And when people try to ridicule your firmness, always make it clear that your principles are not up for discussion. Furthermore, there is always a new and willing person ready to be your friend based on your principles. Look for that person and enjoy life with a bird of the same feather. Set boundaries and keep them. Good fences make good neighbors. Fences allow you to protect whats valuable and whats important to you. They also allow you to control who and what enters your space. Establish a gate in your life where you can vet and reserve the right of admission into your space and into your heart. Setting boundaries helps establish productivity for you. Please appreciate that people have different values, needs, and beliefs about whats right. These differences can lead to conflict, resentment, anger, anxiety, and stress if this principle is not understood and practiced. Because you cannot change people to be like you, edit, regulate and manage their interaction with you to ensure you remain relevant, productive and influential to them without allowing anyone to interfere with the progress and maturation of your own life. You are great, and great people live by a code of conduct. Adopt one today. Bishop
Posted on: Fri, 23 May 2014 17:01:17 +0000
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