Ok can we talk about love for a minute? I just watched a very short video of a lady explaining the difference between really loving someone and ego loving someone and I was reminded of this and very moved by this. She explained that if you really truly want to know if you genuinely love someone to ask yourself this very important question... If the person you love was to leave you, or didnt love you in return would your feelings for that person change? She explains that if the answer is yes then you dont really love them at all and the reason is because when we truly love someone their behaviour doesnt change how we truly feel from our heart about that person, real love is free, there is no price and it is given freely. To truly love someone doesnt mean if their behaviour was toxic or hurtful toward you that you should stick around for that, no. It simply means that even if they were no longer a part of your life you would love them within your heart regardless and want them to be happy. The Ego love, I mentioned is the selfish love, its the love that says Im wounded, I need you to heal me, it says you complete me, I need you to love me, it says I need you to make me happy, that is not real love, that is the wounded aspects of oneself searching for your own love and acceptance. Can you see the difference? I must admit I sometimes get caught up in Ego love, when the unhealed aspects of me bubble to the surface I have not always been good at quietening the trickery of the mind and allowing the heart to love freely. But underneath those wounds the heart knows how to love beyond conditions and limitations, we just need to relax and allow it to do so. Sometimes we get so caught up in the fear of losing something we cherish we tarnish our genuine love with worry and despair and disconnect ourself from it thus passing through to the state of ego love. I can honestly say I know for a fact that I love genuinely, I once had a person I loved so very deeply and honestly with my heart walk away from me and leave me, although I initially went into despair and grief and fell into the ego love for a moment, once I centred myself and found my feet again, I understood that no matter what ever happened in our lives and no matter that persons behaviour or their rejection of me, I would love them always regardless. That is truly loving someone. I think this is the single most important thing to remember in our relationships, we are constantly accusing our partners of not truly loving us but what we tend to miss the point that actually we are not truly loving ourselves and that is the real issue. This realisation about genuine love and ego love is one I have known for sometime but had disregarded in the midst of working through my own personal wounds of late. But this divine truth of soul coming back to my awareness today has been such a sweet blessing for me to remember and I sincerely hope someone out there receives this same blessing of truth through my words here and this wonderful ladys video. With love, Julie McNeal (c) Dec 2014 https://m.youtube/watch?v=zJQoeDe5TSQ
Posted on: Tue, 02 Dec 2014 04:54:28 +0000
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