One of the things Shawn and I talk a lot about when helping other couples is changing your perception and projecting your wants onto others. Part of how Shawn has managed to keep her sanity and doesnt let things bother her is by looking at things and instead of taking it personal or making it about her she asks what brought this on and what need of mine is not being met that would cause this reaction. Also by trial and error we have both figured out making demands on the other or telling them what has to happen will never work. The reason being it is what YOU want and not even taking the other persons wants or needs into consideration. Not only did this help Shawn, it made me not be so defensive. I was willing to work with her because she didnt try to control me or judge me for my reactions or actions.
Posted on: Sat, 12 Apr 2014 13:17:27 +0000
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