POINT YOUR GUY TO HIGHER STANDARDS Nhasi dakumbotaura about VARUME..... SO LADIES HEAR THIS!!! Have you ever been frustrated with the state of today’s men? If so, I have some good news for you. As women, you have a far greater power over the course of masculinity than you realize. You can use your femininity to influence men toward strength or toward weakness... Unfortunately, most of you ladies don’t use your feminine power correctly. You often nag, criticize, complain, and manipulate – hoping that your self-built techniques will somehow work some magic and turn a frog into a prince. But when selfishness is your motivation for seeing men around you change, you only end up fueling the problem and leading men into even greater weakness, yeah thats right I said it!!! I remember a conversation that I had with some single young men a few weeks ago. We were on the subject of healthy guy/girl interaction, and I happened to mention that I felt today’s young women are disillusioned with modern guys’ behavior. My comment evoked an interesting reaction from the young men around the table. “I’m so sick of hearing that!” one of them spat angrily. “You can’t even turn on the radio these days without hearing women bashing men. Every T.V. show is all about the brilliant woman looking down on the idiotic guy! How is a guy supposed to showcase a different standard when every woman he meets has already labeled him a good-for-nothing deadbeat?” or the so popular varume vese imbwa statement.... Though this man’s reaction did not reflect the nature of Christ, I had to admit that his words did have an element of truth to them. Many modern women have attempted to cover their wounded feminine dreams with an arrogant, haughty disdain for all modern men. Too many of you ladies have eagerly bought into your culture’s current trend of “men-bashing” jokes and attitudes including the all MAN ARE DOGS saying!!! I once saw a man moving a heavy box as the woman next to me remarked dryly, “That’s the only thing that men are good for, you know.” It’s a cultural “joke” that is widely accepted – anything than puts men down and builds women up is deemed funny, clever, and true. Guys are expected to grin and agree with any statements against their masculinity, or even participate in the “men being lower life forms” campaign. (Of course, if a man ever puts a woman down in a similar way, he’s likely to be publicly tarred and feathered!) Arrogant femininity is a form of self-protection. When you as women don’t know how to deal with the disappointment of modern manhood,you often choose to cover your emotions with scorn. I have been in numerous conversations in which married Christian women sat around drinking coffee and bashing their husband’s idiotic behavior – laughing and joking with the “all men are hopeless so we might as well get a few laughs out of it” attitude. But this attitude only traps men in their weakness. Once a guy has been labeled as hopeless, he has very little motivation to become anything different remember youre his helper not his enemy. I have talked to many single guys who have told me, “What’s the use in trying to change? Women will always just look down on me because I’m a guy.” kana wakambodanana neBenzi raikurova, cheated on you, lied or akakurwadzisa the bitter truth is thats your own fault, you made that choice soo DEAL WITH IT!! DONT HOLD EVERY NEW GUY YOU MEET ACCOUNTABLE FOR WHAT YOUR EX DID. Married men can easily fall into the same trap - “Why would I bother trying to be different if my wife is going to always see me as an unromantic, self-focused slob anyway?” All too many men who would have otherwise risen to a higher standard have become stymied and paralyzed by the attitude of women who don’t believe they can ever change. No matter what disturbing trends you see in modern manhood, the worst thing you can do is participate in your culture’s scornful bashing of masculinity and label men as brutes who will never change. That arrogant attitude only creates guys who shrug and say, “Well if that’s all she thinks I can be, then why would I bother trying to be anything different?” But when women actually believe that men can become the heroic, Christ-built Warrior-Poets that they were meant to be, we cause guys to actually want to change. God calls us to respect and reverence masculinity, not to scorn and bash it. (See Eph 5:33, 1 Peter 3:4-6) If you want the guys around you to start acting more heroic, don’t label them, scorn them, or bash them. Believe that they can become something more. It’s not having faith in a man, but in what your mighty, amazing, triumphant God can do in and through a man. Let your words bring life and encouragement, not sarcasm and disdain. James 3:8-10 says, The tongue is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison. With it we bless our God and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in the similitude of God. Out of the same mouth proceed blessing and cursing. My brethren, these things ought not to be so. Proverbs says, For three things the earth is perturbed, Yes, for four it cannot bear up: For a servant when he reigns, A fool when he is filled with food, a hateful woman when she is married, and a maidservant who succeeds her mistress. So Arrogant femininity is not Christ-built femininity. It’s a twisted counterfeit of your feminine power – using your words to paralyze and defeat men rather than set them free to become valiant Warrior-Poets. As women, you are created to build men up, not tear them down. This doesn’t mean you lower our standards and accept mediocrity in masculinity. Rather, it means that you motivate guys to rise up to the standard of Christ through words and attitudes of encouragement instead of disgust. So the next time you are tempted to nag, criticize or complain about a guy’s behavior – pray for him instead. Ask God to transform him, rescue him, and shape him into the mighty Warrior-Poet God intended him to be. Remember that God is not limited by a guy’s weaknesses – His transforming power is far greater than any human sin or weakness that resides in a man’s life. Ask God to build your faith in His mighty ways – and remember that He is even more interested in rescuing that man’s soul than you are.
Posted on: Sat, 22 Nov 2014 08:34:22 +0000
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