PRACTICE INTIMACY WITH YOUR WIFE Intimacy basically means closeness (not just love-making as people would want us to think). I have noticed that the number one need (deepest cravings) of every wife is to be close together (have intimacy) with her husband. She wants and needs total togetherness with her special man that she has carefully selected to give him her heart, all the days of her life on earth. This does not come naturally. The Greek word “Intimus” means “inmost”. It implies opening up to know the inner contents of your mate to the extent that you become one flesh with your spouse. In 1st Peter 3:7, God admonishes the husband to “dwell” with his wife, which means oneness that will never make you separate from one another. It is the same word that is used for the Holy Spirit dwelling with us as Believers in Christ. It may include physical relations, but may not necessarily have intimacy established (or vice versa) if you do not intentionally work hard towards physical, emotional, spiritual and all other forms of oneness necessary for a couple to experience total intimacy. How Do You Practice Intimacy With Your Wife? Some examples are: 1) Share your plans and dreams together. 2) Engage in good communication, especially spontaneous conversation and adequate information on your plans and activities in the house and outside of the home. 3) Expressing words of different kinds (romantic words, words of appreciation and admiration etc.). 4) Affirm her continually. Let her know that what you thought about her and expressed to her in approval before, has not changed about her. Women never get fed up with telling them: “I love you”; “You are a great support for me”; “You satisfy me”; “You are hard working”; “I am proud of you”; “I am glad I married you” etc. 5) Have a sense of humor --- laugh with her, share jokes, respond to her jokes. 6) Share her joy and sorrow, and openly rejoice with her for any success or victory. Empathize and sympathize with her weaknesses and failings. 7) Go back to old photos, cards, letters, e-mails, tokens, memorabilia, and special stories as you recall some interesting events. Allow all these to revive your love, interests, and commitment to each other. 8) Sleep in one bed with her. 9) Work together with her, and walk together with her to places. 10) Share scripture and useful spiritual lessons with her. Discuss your theology together and agree on what is based on the truth of God’s word. 11) Encourage her on regular basis, especially when she needs to uplifted and motivated to start a difficult task, or persevere towards a definite goal. 12) Make time to give her a helping hand when she is facing any difficulty, when she is tired, or is perplexed and puzzled about something. 13) Share your good friendships and associations with her. That will also protect your integrity and help to maintain your faithfulness. A husband must ensure that everything he does and pursues in the marriage is MUTUAL with his wife. By Dr. Samuel Kisseadoo. E-mail: kisseadoo@msn. Website for resources: fruitfulministriesint. My first Facebook Wall (DrSamuel Kisseadoo) is full, but there is space on my new Wall (RevDr. Kisseadoo) for new friends; or you can like my Community Page: FM Int. Inc. Tune in to JOY 99.7 FM in Accra, Ghana to listen to Dr. Kisseadoo’s weekly broadcast “Hope For Your Family” on Sat. 5:30am-6am (Ghana time). Access on Internet with MYJOYONLINE.COM. Use my name to search RedLeadBooks and get a copy of my encouraging book: “Facing And Fighting Through The Storm”. Call me in Virginia on 1-757-7289330 (or call 020-8126533 in Ghana) for free counseling, prayer, books, speaking engagements, and messages. In Ghana, call Tigo 545 and follow the prompts for daily motivational messages of Dr. Kisseadoo. Permission granted to freely share but with acknowledgement.
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