Public Service Announcement On Being Single… I find it remarkable how often since turning 30 my relationship status comes up. No matter how inappropriate the setting or unrelated to the topic at hand, inevitably there is someone who is itching to ask the question, “Why aren’t you married?” I can’t count the number of times people have asked me that question. And whenever it comes up, my sentiment is always the same. First, is that a rhetorical question or do you actually want me to try and drum up an answer? The answer is really quite simple. I’m not married because I’m not married. It seems that as far as we have come in the way of bridging gender gaps there is still something that generates pity for the single 30 something woman. And, quite honestly it baffles me a bit. To be clear, I respect and honor the institution of marriage. But, it is offensive that of all the amazing and noteworthy things I have going on in my life, that somehow the only thing some people choose to remember is that I’m single. So, on behalf of single people everywhere, please allow this soapbox moment. Just because we are single does not mean we are desperately lonely, in need of pity, or unsatisfied with our lives. It just means we haven’t gotten married yet or never will. And that is totally okay. And please for goodness sake, steer clear of these things… 1) Making remarks about how many eggs I have left at “this age” and then reminding me that Sarah was 90 years old when she had Isaac. 2) Reminding me that I am married to Jesus. 3) Volunteering to set up my profile on Christian Mingle, E Harmony, or Match and then telling me about your friend of a friend that got married that way. 4) Pairing me up with the only other single guy you know in hopes that we hit it off. 5) Making statements like “You were always so pretty” and shaking your head in confusion. 6) Implying that perhaps my standards are too high. IE: Does he really have to be unmarried, and a Christian, and self-sufficient? 7) Attempting to encourage me by citing how many women are having babies on their own these days. Who needs a man, really? 8) Sending me blogs about being Single, Sassy, and Satisfied Really guys, It’s okay. Being single isn’t the plague. I have friends from every walk of life… Single, Engaged, Married, Pregnant, Infants, Grown Kids, Empty Nesters, etc. And I think we would all agree our relationship status is only one piece of who we are. I’m not ashamed of where I am in my life. All Im saying is dont judge a book by one chapter...
Posted on: Tue, 18 Nov 2014 02:08:21 +0000