#RayRice #Men #Abuse #DomesticViolence #Philosophy PSA to my fellow men out there: What is a man? I define a man as a male that has control over almost every aspect of his life. A man has control over his finances, his health, his body, his intelligence, his philosophy, his dreams, his attitude, his interactions with other people and perhaps most importantly his emotions. When we tell young boys to suck it up we are only giving half the story. Many times in life a man will have to endure a crappy situation, and the only thing a man can do is to suck it up and endure. That DOES NOT mean a man should ignore or even disregard his emotions, rather men deal with them when it is a healthy time to do so. Expressing your emotions at the drop of a hat every time you feel some type of way is not healthy and downright dangerous. If you let someone (significant other or a spouse) get you angry to the point that you have to hit them, you have effectively failed at having control. You have failed at diplomacy, you have failed at logic, and you have failed at controlling your emotions. Thats not being a man. If you use Ray Rice and others like him as a cautionary tale, then when compared to potentially losing your life, freedom, livelihood, and reputation no woman is worth the aggravation that you have to hit them. Fellas, walk away. They are not worth it. Even if she hits you. Walk away. Do not retaliate. Do not wine about she hit me first. End the relationship. Do not contact her. She is dead to you. Move on with your life. It may be hard. If you have to cry to get over it, cry. Whatever you have to get over it do it. Work on yourself. Read books. Learning a new language. Exercise. Take up boxing. Learn a new language. IMPROVE YOURSELF. If you have trouble controlling your emotions, work on that. There are many books on the subject. Become a better man than yesterday. There are very few things in life we truly have absolutely no control over. As a man, you shouldnt worry about those things. My philosophy is anything that goes wrong in life is YOUR FAULT. Dont blame other people or things. The problems in your life start with you and they can also end with you. Ray Rice is 100% wrong. No defense for him. If there is a history of domestic violence between the two, I also blame him for allowing such a toxic relationship to continue. He has no control over his wifes body or emotions, therefore allowing her to get him angry to the point of violence is also his fault.
Posted on: Thu, 11 Sep 2014 16:49:44 +0000
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