Recovery How easy it is to blame our problems on others. Look at what hes doing. . . . Look how long Ive waited. . . . Why doesnt she call? . . . If only hed change then Id be happy. . . . Often, our accusations are justified. We probably are feeling hurt and frustrated. In those moments, we may begin to believe that the solution to our pain and frustration is getting the other person to do what we want, or having the outcome we desire. But these self-defeating illusions put the power and control of our life in other peoples hands. We call this codependency. The solution to our pain and frustration, however valid is to acknowledge our own feelings. We feel the anger, the grief; then we let go of the feelings and find peace - within ourselves. We know our happiness isnt controlled by another person, even though we may have convinced ourselves it is. We call this acceptance. Then we decide that although wed like our situation to be different, maybe our life is happening this way for a reason. Maybe there is a higher purpose and plan in play, one thats better than we could have orchestrated. We call this faith. Then we decide what we need to do, what is within our power to do to take care of ourselves. Thats called recovery. Its easy to point our finger at another, but its more rewarding to gently point it at ourselves. Today, I will live with my pain and frustration by dealing with my own feelings. From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990
Posted on: Sun, 12 Oct 2014 01:07:51 +0000
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