Replace negative self-talk. Replace the negative thoughts or words in your head with positive self-affirmations. Remind yourself that you were strong enough to leave the abuse and move on with your life. Make a list of what has changed since you left the relationship and compare it to your life when you were absorbed in the abuse. Focus on your needs and do whatever it is that allows you to feela sense of joy and accomplishment. Psychologist Daniel Tomasulo says that you should take time each day to identify and ponder the positive aspects in your life. He says that if you focus on moments of happiness or inspiration, you can transfer your “...mindset toward finding and savoring the good things in our life which, in turn, allows for a genuine resilience in our spirit, mind, and body." Give and receive support. Find a support group for victims of abuse. Not only can you receive help for coping with your suffering, but you can also assist others in their journey through the pain. Empathizing with others can produce a healing effect in victims. The ability to recognize a need for understanding and compassion in regard to others can “...heal and support blossoming of the self and relationships.” Be open and honest within the group by sharing your experiences and receiving feedback from other victims who have shared some of the same hardships—you’re not alone. When you see someone who’s attempting to understand how you feel, it can give you a “...burst of hope, optimism and energy. That renewed energy brings us closer to being able to act upon what we need...” and permits you to take care of your physical and emotional needs - MEV
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