SEVEN causes of broken home!!! The rate of broken homes in marriages is becoming alarming as the number of people from broken homes is increasing by the day. The home is meant to be a place filled with joy, happiness with lot of guaranteed security and comfort but it is rather pitiful that the home is neglecting its primary functions thereby causing lots of psychological challenge in the mind of the people. The following are the 5 causes of a broken home and how they can be corrected: (1) Lack of time management! As the saying goes “Proper preparation prevents poor performance”, a lot of people find it difficult to mark out a good schedule of their daily activities thereby neglecting their home at the expense of their work. I can’t imagine homes that care less about their kids just because the pillars (parent) are too busy. Everyone is busy but the ability to map out a good plan schedule makes a perfect home. (2)Strange partners In the home, some partners are very secretive in their attitude and way of life. They smile when you expect them to react to something you know that hurt them. They never share their feelings about any issue with their partners. Some may even go to the extent of over monitoring the schedule of their partners. This shows (3)the lack of trust and confidence in the home!. Learn to overlook some issues and learn to be conversational with one another. “Money is good but interaction will never let a family down”. (4) Slavery mindset The word “help-mate” in the home is fast losing its meaning as most people are now over- conscious of the meaning of this word. Some spouse sees their partner as slaves putting all duties especially the house chores on them. I see no evil if a man decides to cook dinner for his family. But over- consciousness of being called a fool is affecting the mentality of most people. Over-reaction Humans are not perfect and are bound to make mistake. (5)Over reaction! to these mistakes may sometimes determine the life- span of a home. Some people over react irrationally to some issues that need to be settled amicably. When the man is angry, what is expected of the wife is to be quiet and vice versa because two mad people cannot build a house. Multi-party peacemaker Since there is bound to be disagreement in the home, the best thing to do is to settle it amicably in the four corners of the house and not calling on outsiders or members of the extended family because it will not always work out that way. The best way is to settle it between yourself. (6) Abondance of Quran and Sunnah! This is also contributing very well becouse many people are 4getting with the sunnah, why do i said that is, everything concerning life of ours were stated in Quran and Sunnah . And if we do handle them everything including marriage life will be safe. (7)Lie between the couple!! before the marriage you will find that a man is lying to a girl, borrowing a car, money and dresses and knowing fully well he cant afford them. A girl may feel that all what she saw from her guy belongs to him. Aftr marriage if she realize the fact is where the problem will start. If u are proposing to a girl, you better show her your position donot go beyond your capacity. though many girls are look for wealth which is wrong, dont 4get that if you build your love on this you are going no where after marriage. May ALLAH protect us from SATAN evil becouse breaking of home is the best duty of DEVIL. WISHING YOU A WONDERFUL DAY IN THE OURS AHEAD.
Posted on: Fri, 18 Oct 2013 07:54:13 +0000
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