SHE HAS WRITTEN TO THE PARLIAMENT…FOR OUR ADVICE. ‘’I need the help of the parliament on a family issue. My eldest brother left Nigeria on December 31 1987 for Canada on scholarship to study aeronautic engineering. My family enjoyed 10 good years of financial bliss from him and in 1998 he stopped calling. Nobody knew anything. It was as if he disappeared from the surface of the earth. I searched the internet. Searched everywhere, nothing popped up. And then October last year, my father called me with the good news that someone saw an article on him on the internet and trust me- I started searching again. Two weeks later my eldest sister, who is a full sister to him (their mum had 3 of them for my dad before he married my mum but we were all brought up in the same home by my mum, who married my dad when my sister the youngest of them was 10yrs) told my dad that she had found my brother and he was in a facility in Canada being treated for depression. When I heard this, I told my dad point blank that I don’t buy the story because my sister isn’t internet savvy.Well she gave my dad a phone number and we started talking to him through the administrators of the facility and then in August, he was scheduled to come home. My sister left us in the dark about this and as luck would have it, my dad called and my brother mentioned it (his home coming), my sister denied having knowledge of that, unknown to her that I had gone behind her to contact the administrators and they forwarded mails they had sent her about his itinerary to me, I gave my dad and he confronted her and she went ahead to send a message to them,claiming that she is the only sibling of my brother. Anyway we sorted that out and my brother arrived and she kept him locked up in her house forbidding us to see him until my father insisted she returned him to his house with immediate effect. While with my dad, my brother revealed he was once married and has a child in Canada. Now the issue on ground is that he gave my dad his woman’s name and I found her on Facebook, I also found her daughter (my niece) because my brother told me her name. But to the astonishment of my family, we found out the woman has changed the girl’s name to her own maiden name and she(my brother’s woman) is now married to my brothers best friend, who left Nigeria with him in 1987. They even have 2 kids together. I sent the woman a message on Facebook, introducing myself and begging her to get in touch. I also sent her daughter a friend request which she accepted but the mum declined. Now our dilemma is …how we do approach the girl, letting her know she has a dad and a family here (because her mother is a Nigerian). And we really want to know what triggered the depression in my brother, so we will know how to look for cure. Also my sister has warned earlier that we shouldn’t mention the friends name before my brother and when my dad asked why -she gave a flimsy excuse. Could she be aware of the cause of his problem? Or the child before now? Because we got to know shes been aware of my brothers condition since 1998 and kept it from the family, knowing my father is aged (80years old) and has been worried sick. Please I want the parliament to advise us on the best approach to this issue. Thank you’’
Posted on: Wed, 04 Dec 2013 11:57:26 +0000
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