Seventy five All I wanted to do was be with my man. And if it meant paying for my lobola, then be it. I asked my granny in directly how much would she wanted for lobola, she was so negative. She kept laughing and just telling me ridiculous amounts. Maybe she thought I was kidding. Pks mother had arranged a meeting for assistance. The uncles set a date and letter was sent for the my family and the date was set to be in August. Me and Pk were contemplating on how much it would be because my granny didnt want to tell me, well we will see. Pk had 8000 and was expecting more money at the bank. So he was covered. He went and applied for another loan. We spoke to his mom and his mother didnt have some money in fact she needed some money to pay off some of Pinkys debts. I so wanted to help but both Pk and his mom didnt want me to help. When the letter was received at home, my granny didnt believe it. My granny asked me if thats what I wanted and without any doubt in my mind, I told her yes. Pks mother visited my granny after that letter was sent just to find out how much should be prepared. I dont know what came out of the conversation, because I wasnt there. My grandmothers distant family was called in to help. So it was my aunt and her husband and these two other couple which I never met before. Lol. On the day of the said date, I helped my aunt to cook for everyone before they came. Lobola is negotiations are done in the early hours of the morning and I had to wake up early. Pks uncles arrived and me and my granny went to sit outside with Katlego. Ousi Mphos daughter and negotiations took place and I was called in. I had to wear a long skirt and a head scarf and cover my shoulders. I was with Katlego, my cousin. The other younger aunt from Pks uncles picked me out because she knew me. The other uncle whose never seen me said I was too young. And my aunt arrogantly replied asking him if his son was older? Eish my aunt though. There are nice polite ways to deal with things you know. Did she need to be arrogant? Anyways I was asked if I know them and if I have any knowledge of Pk, and I nodded and looked down. When everything was done I dished up for everyone and I was so eager to call Pk. I was so excited, all I wanted was to be with him. I washed the dishes and they left. My aunt was so arrogant about the whole situation. Belittle everyone and she told my granny in my presence that they paid 6000 which was half of it. They wanted to pay everything on the spot and take Nessa with. She then preceded to tell my granny that she didnt allow it because she want me to wear a white dress. I am the only girl in the family and because she never had the chance to wear the white dress, she will do the whole wedding not for me, but for herself. All I had to do is get me sorted and she will do the whole wedding. My heart was shattered because of how she said it. All I want is my man, I dont want people throwing their own weddings for me. Yes, every girls dream is to have a white wedding, but I didnt want it in that manner. My granny just allowed her arrogance. My aunt also told her that they will come back month end to pay up. I was listening in on the conversation. I had thought by this time I was going to be with Pk, but clearly not. After she left with her husband, I called Pk. He sounded so proud on the phone. Pk: oh my wife to be, how are you? How did it go? Me: I dont know babe, I think it went well. Pk: you dont sound too happy, what up? Me: just my aunt, but we will talk about it tomorrow on the way to work. Pk: okay babe, I love you and I cant wait to call you mine. I miss you so much. Me: me too babe, how is the reception that side? How is your mother? Pk: she is alright, my sister is acting up, but I dont care. I dont know whats up with her. Me: oh okay, ever since she is a sangoma she thinks she is old ne. Pk: hey babe, what can we do. Me: babe, let me bounce. Chat later before I sleep ne. Pk: yes hun. I will call you myself. My future wife, my future MaNdlovu. I blushed so much. It hadnt hit home for me that I was taking a huge step. I didnt even know what I was doing. All that I knew in my heart was the love I had for Pk and that I was willing to do anything for him and his family.
Posted on: Mon, 11 Aug 2014 12:40:22 +0000
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