Seyi (not her real name) was very upset and was pacing round d room. She had complained about her husbands late home coming and he had promised to change. But that night their wedding anniversary nite he wasnt home by 10pm. She wanted 2 call but she was jst too upset to call him. She was so certain that he had forgetten about d nite and was probably hanging out wit his friends. Infact!!!(she tot 2 herself) she had had it. She was not going to forgive him this time. She wud pay him back. David(Seyis Husband not his real name) had actually changed after his wife spoke to him 4months ago about his constant hanging out with friends and late home coming. He had seen d pain in her eyes and for d love he had 4 her, he had 2 cut out wat was causing her pain. Damn it!!!(he swore under his breathe)He was supposed 2 hv been home 2 give her his surprise gift for their wedding anniversary but he had a flat tire on his way home and there was no spare in his car. He had used up all d money on him 2 get dis precious gift 4 her and his fone was dead. There was no way 2 reach her 2 explain. So no money, no fone, no spare tire and there he was. it was already 10:30pm. He finally summoned courage to ask d girl selling recharge cards down d street where he was 2 help him. she gave him her fone 2 call. He calls his wife to explain but hell broke loose. She gave him all d pieces of her mind. Said he was wicked and she was fed up of d marriage and blah blah blah. Then she cut d call on him. She didnt listen to even hear him out. He was first shocked, then confused, then very angry. He had changed for 4months and she didnt even notice?. He shrugged his shoulders then calls his best friend. Who hurriedly comes 2 his rescue. But he decided he wasnt going home. He threw away d gift in anger and slept at his friends home. The rest we can guess. A lot of times, we have judged our loved ones/people harshly bcos we seem 2 be so sure that d person is jst being himself/herself. We recall all d times we have seen/heard d person misbehave and wen somtin similar happens, we jst conclude that it is d same scenario being played out. Truth is often times, we may be wrong. Today some pple cant be workers in church bcos of some hurtful experience they have had in their former church(es), some pple cant trust their spouses bcos of wat they saw their parents do. Some Ladies cant date one guy per time for fear of losing out if dumped. So they hv multiple relationships, all d while tinkin (Mr B is my back up plan if Mr A dissapoints me), some guys believe givin one woman too much luv wud make her take dem 4 granted so they have over 5 women they are dating(sharing their love). Some wives are jst paranoid that their husbands will cheat on them bcos of wat they believe about men, so they police d mans movement until he becoms afraid 2 even come home. Some children cannot confide in their parents bcos they have heard/ probably had a bad outcome in d past after they did dat. so they confide, rather in their peers who may give dem bad ideas most likely bcos even d peers dont no any better. Pple dont give lifts anymore bcos in d past, they have either heard of/experienced car snatching, robbery or somtin bitter after helpin some1 by d road side. Nigerians r passive today in governmental matters bcos over time, they have seen/believed that their votes dont count and dat d pple who control power will hv their way in d end, so to them, wats d point wasting energy and time voting and being part of d government etc. Moving 4ward in life is very possible wen we cleanse our memories of bad experiences rather than let it ruin us. We cant be continuously bound by sometin bitter that happened in d past, how would we move forward? Its like driving a car and using d rear view mirror to drive. u r bound 2 hit somtin/som1. Som1 said & I rephrase that, we are a sum total of wat we remember 4rm our previous experiences. So keep bein nice 2 pple even if they always ended up betraying u. Dont let dem turn u in2 a monster. Dont get me wrong. Learn 4rm d past and dont recycle mistakes be wiser but dont change in2 som1 else. B a smarter/nicer u. Pple wil always b pple but u owe it 2 God/humanity/ursef 2 always be a better version of U. Nigeria will be a better nation wen we all stop being bitter about d past and start pressin forward wit forgivness in our hearts in2 d future. Play ur part. GOB BLESS US ALL
Posted on: Sun, 12 Oct 2014 07:26:39 +0000
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