Shi Tian Remains in an Unsafe Marriage - Anna Durfee opinion Shi Tian (aka Easter Shi aka Summer Shi) Remains in an Unsafe Marriage Relationships of any kind are often hard to navigate. A relationship between a husband and wife is no exception. Most find that if a man and a woman work hard together, even a difficult marriage can be saved. However, there comes the occasional relationship where so much is wrong, that there leaves no hope for reconciliation. Such relationships may have infidelity, abuse, control issues and a host of psychological disorders in either partner that many would suggest that the relationship be ended so that both parties have a chance of happiness as they move on with life. Such is the case with Shi Tian and her husband. While Shi Tian is not completely without fault in her marriage (she is currently have an affair with a man named, Bobby), the actions taken by her husband can be categorized as abuse and his intentions as malevolent. In order to control his wife and her actions, her husband has become abusive and controlling. This may be something he himself is used to, however. Colins Marx, a psychologist, said that is someone, was raised in a household where the male is dominant and emotional abuse was present, the persistent stress can create cognitive distortions to thinking that such behavior is lawful. Regardless if why Shis husband treats her so poorly or has become abusive, it remains that such treatment is intolerable and cannot promote any kind of happiness for Shi Tian. Shi Tian seems to have no support in her marriage and is attempting to cope on her own as far as the abuse is concerned. This inevitably contributes to her unhappiness and her own personal issues. Colins Marx, in his reports, comments on the fact that Shi Tian suffers from a personality disorder; something that causes unhealthy or negative thinking patterns. Her disorder stems from trust issues that may have developed before her marriage but are certainly not helped in the situation she now finds herself in. Abuse tends to escalate. Where it may start out as verbal or emotional abuse, there is always an opportunity to move to scarier forms of abuse. Her husband is starting to show how far he may go to control her and keep her as his wife. Another psychologist has said that, Shi Tians husband will go to the extreme to have his wife. He cites examples such as calling her parents in China, contacting the police and also slandering her boyfriends name and reputation. The psychologist also noted, He is a person that likes to stir up trouble. As Shis husband loses more and more control over Shi Tian, she becomes more and more unsafe in the marriage. Her continuing relationship with her boyfriend, Bobby, will also intensify the situation and may lead her husband to even more extremes. In the end, Shi Tian is in an unhealthy, abusive relationship where she finds no hope for happiness. All who love her should help her as she tries to cut ties with her husband and move on to a better existence. Put most bluntly by Colin Marx, a psychologist, I do not believe it is safe for Easter (Shi Tian) to remain in her relationship with her husband. Shi Tian may need help in others way, like learning how to develop healthy relationships and how to trust others, but she cannot begin work on any of that if she remains with her husband. by Anna Durfee (snipped from the Internet) * Easter Shi / Shi Tian is a dancer with the Richmond BC Chinese Maple drum team see: https://facebook/pages/Vancouver-Police-Rescue-Easter-Shi-from-Husbands-Grip/194036907460828 “石天仍然在不安全的婚姻” - 安娜DURFEE意見 石天（又名“復活石”又名“夏史” ）保持在不安全的婚姻 任何形式的關係往往很難定位。丈夫和妻子之間的關係也不例外。大多數發現，如果一個男人和一個女人一起努力，甚至是一個艱難的婚姻可以被保存。然而，有來自偶爾的關係，有那麼多的錯，有葉無希望和解。這種關係可能有不忠，濫用，控制問題以及一系列心理障礙的任一合作夥伴，很多人會認為，這種關係被終止，使雙方都有幸福的機會，因為他們在移動生活。 這就是與石天，她的丈夫的情況。雖然石天並非完全沒有錯，她的婚姻（她目前有一個名叫，鮑比外遇） ，採取由她的丈夫的行動可分為濫用和他的意圖是惡意的。 為了控制他的妻子和她的行動，她的丈夫已經成為虐待和控制。這可能是一些他自己來，但是。柯林斯馬克思，心理學家，說是一個人， “在一個家庭中的男性為主體，情感虐待是目前，持續的壓力可以創造認知扭曲到認為這樣的行為是合法的被提出。 ”不管為什麼軾的丈夫對她這麼差或已成為辱罵，它仍然是這樣的待遇是不能容忍的，不能促進石天任一種幸福。石天似乎也沒有支持她的婚姻，並試圖對她自己應付至於濫用方面。這不可避免地有利於她的不幸和她自己的個人問題。柯林斯馬克思在他的報告，意見上的石天從人格障礙的病人的事實，一些導致不健康的或消極的思維模式。從可能她已經結婚前開發的，但肯定不是因為她現在發現自己所在的局面幫信任問題她亂莖 濫用趨於上升。在那裡它開始時作為口頭或情感虐待，總有一個機會移動到可怕形式的虐待。她的丈夫已開始顯現多遠，他可能會去控制她，讓她作為他的妻子。另一位心理學家曾表示， “石天的丈夫會走向極端有他的妻子。 ”他舉了例子，如打電話給她的父母在中國，聯絡警察，也污衊她的男朋友的名字和聲譽。心理學家還指出， “他是一個人，喜歡惹是生非。 ”由於施的丈夫失去了越來越多的控制權石天，她變得越來越不安全的婚姻。她繼續與她的男友，鮑比，關係也將加劇的情況，並可能導致她的丈夫更極端。 最後，石天是不健康的，辱罵性的關係，在那裡她發現沒有希望的幸福。所有誰愛她應該幫助她，因為她試圖切斷與她的丈夫的關係，並轉移到一個更好的生存。把最直言不諱地由Colin馬克思，心理學家， “我不相信它是安全的復活節（石天）留在她與丈夫的關係。 ”石天會在別人的方式需要幫助，就像學習如何發展健康的關係，以及如何信任他人，但她不能開始任何的工作，如果她仍然與她的丈夫。 安娜DURFEE （從因特網剪斷） *復活節石/石天與卑詩省列治文中國楓葉腰鼓隊舞者 見： https://facebook/pages/Vancouver-Police-Rescue-Easter-Shi-from-Husbands-Grip/194036907460828 “Shí tiān réngrán zài bù ānquán de hūnyīn” - ānnà DURFEE yìjiàn Shí tiān (yòu míng “fùhuó shí” yòu míng “xià shǐ” ) bǎochí zài bù ānquán de hūnyīn Rènhé xíngshì de guānxì wǎngwǎng hěn nán dìngwèi. Zhàngfū hé qī zǐ zhī jiān de guānxì yě bù lìwài. Dà duōshù fāxiàn, rúguǒ yīgè nánrén hé yīgè nǚrén yīqǐ nǔlì, shènzhì shì yīgè jiānnán de hūnyīn kěyǐ bèi bǎocún. Ránér, yǒu láizì ǒuěr de guānxì, yǒu nàme duō de cuò, yǒu yè wú xīwàng héjiě. Zhè zhǒng guānxì kěnéng yǒu bù zhōng, lànyòng, kòngzhì wèntí yǐjí yī xìliè xīnlǐ zhàngài de rèn yī hézuò huǒbàn, hěnduō rén huì rènwéi, zhè zhǒng guānxì bèi zhōngzhǐ, shǐ shuāngfāng dōu yǒu xìngfú de jīhuì, yīnwèi tāmen zài yídòng shēnghuó. Zhè jiùshì yǔ shí tiān, tā de zhàngfū de qíngkuàng. Suīrán shí tiān bìngfēi wánquán méiyǒu cuò, tā de hūnyīn (tā mùqián yǒu yīgè míng jiào, bào bǐ wàiyù), cǎiqǔ yóu tā de zhàngfū de xíngdòng kě fēn wéi lànyòng hé tā de yìtú shì èyì de. Wèile kòngzhì tā de qīzi hé tā de xíngdòng, tā de zhàngfū yǐjīng chéngwéi nüèdài hé kòngzhì. Zhè kěnéng shì yīxiē tā zìjǐ lái, dànshì. Kēlínsī mǎkèsī, xīnlǐ xué jiā, shuō shì yīgèrén, “zài yīgè jiātíng zhōng de nánxìng wéi zhǔtǐ, qínggǎn nüèdài shì mùqián, chíxù de yālì kěyǐ chuàngzào rènzhī niǔqū dào rènwéi zhèyàng de xíngwéi shì héfǎ de bèi tíchū. ” Bùguǎn wèishéme shì de zhàngfū duì tā zhème chà huò yǐ chéngwéi rǔmà, tā réngrán shì zhèyàng de dàiyù shì bùnéng róngrěn de, bùnéng cùjìn shí tiān rèn yīzhǒng xìngfú. Shí tiān sìhū yě méiyǒu zhīchí tā de hūnyīn, bìng shìtú duì tā zìjǐ yìngfù zhìyú lànyòng fāngmiàn. Zhè bùkě bìmiǎn dì yǒulì yú tā de bùxìng hé tā zìjǐ de gèrén wèntí. Kēlínsī mǎkèsī zài tā de bàogào, yìjiàn shàng de shí tiān cóng réngé zhàngài de bìngrén de shìshí, yīxiē dǎozhì bùjiànkāng de huò xiāojí de sīwéi móshì. Cóng kěnéng tā yǐjīng jiéhūn qián kāifā de, dàn kěndìng bùshì yīnwèi tā xiànzài fāxiàn zìjǐ suǒzài de júmiàn bāng xìnrèn wèntí tā luàn jīng Lànyòng qū yú shàngshēng. Zài nàlǐ tā kāishǐ shí zuòwéi kǒutóu huò qínggǎn nüèdài, zǒng yǒu yīgè jīhuì yídòng dào kěpà xíngshì de nüèdài. Tā de zhàngfū yǐ kāishǐ xiǎnxiàn duō yuǎn, tā kěnéng huì qù kòngzhì tā, ràng tā zuòwéi tā de qīzi. Lìng yī wèi xīnlǐ xué jiā céng biǎoshì, “shí tiān de zhàngfū huì zǒuxiàng jíduān yǒu tā de qīzi. ” Tā jǔle lìzi, rú dǎ diànhuà gěi tā de fùmǔ zài zhōngguó, liánluò jǐngchá, yě wūmiè tā de nán péngyǒu de míngzì hé shēngyù. Xīnlǐ xué jiā hái zhǐchū, “tā shì yīgèrén, xǐhuan rěshìshēngfēi. ” Yóuyú shī de zhàngfū shīqùle yuè lái yuè duō de kòngzhì quán shí tiān, tā biàn de yuè lái yuè bù ānquán de hūnyīn. Tā jìxù yǔ tā de nányǒu, bào bǐ, guānxì yě jiāng jiājù de qíngkuàng, bìng kěnéng dǎozhì tā de zhàngfū gèng jíduān. Zuìhòu, shí tiān shì bùjiànkāng de, rǔmà xìng de guānxì, zài nàlǐ tā fāxiàn méiyǒu xīwàng de xìngfú. Suǒyǒu shuí ài tā yīnggāi bāngzhù tā, yīnwèi tā shìtú qiē duàn yǔ tā de zhàngfū de guānxì, bìng zhuǎnyí dào yīgè gèng hǎo de shēngcún. Bǎ zuì zhíyán bùhuì de yóu Colin mǎkèsī, xīnlǐ xué jiā, “wǒ bù xiāngxìn tā shì ānquán de fùhuó jié (shí tiān) liú zài tā yǔ zhàngfū de guānxì. ” Shí tiān huì zài biérén de fāngshì xūyào bāngzhù, jiù xiàng xuéxí rúhé fāzhǎn jiànkāng de guānxì, yǐjí rúhé xìnrèn tārén, dàn tā bùnéng kāishǐ rènhé de gōngzuò, rúguǒ tā réngrán yǔ tā de zhàngfū. Ānnà DURFEE (Cóng yīntèwǎng jiǎn duàn) *Fùhuó jié shí/shí tiān yǔ bēi shī shěng liè zhìwén zhōngguó fēngyè yāogǔ duì wǔ zhě Jiàn: Https://Www.Facebook.Com/pages/Vancouver-Police-Rescue-Easter-Shi-from-Husbands-Grip/194036907460828
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