Signs my daughter is a lesbian: Q - Tito please help how will I talk to my daughter..I have confirmed that she is in a romantic relationship with another girl...Help me Im afraid na malaman ko yung totoo na may meron nga siyang identity crisis...And if theres a biblical verse na pwede ko iexplain s kanya na nagsasabi ng hind tama yung ganun? A - Maraming parents ang dumaan at dumadaan sa ganyang crisis. (Actually mukhang mas may crisis yung parents tulad mo na hindi matanggap ang reality ng anak nila .) Puede mong tambakan ng verses (usually misunderstood, misinterpreted and misused verses) ang ganyang mga anak, ipa-exorcise, pagalitan, ipa-psychiatric treatment, bugbugin, itakwil, etc pero ang general ending according to experience is the same: they remain as they are. Ang well-meaning parents pa ang nagdadagdag sa crisis nila. At madalas, nahihiwalay at nalalayo lang sila sa family that rejects them. Yes you may try many approaches. And as a loving, concerned parent, you should. Do what you could; perhaps shes just confused or mildly oriented and could be re-oriented. But most cases like that seems to be in-born. (Many people in that situation will strongly tell you that it is not choice: that they were born that way. That they have sensed, known then confirmed it themselves. That they did not want and still do not really want to be like that because of the attendant rejection and judgment. That they did everything they could to change but utterly failed. Afterall, can a leopard change its spots or an Ethipian his skin? -Jeremiah 13.23) If that happens, shift your focus and be more concerned about the hardship she could experience because of her reality, not about your family image or your dreams for her that might have to be rewritten. Be concerned that many people wont be abe to accept her reality and that she would suffer much because of it. And realize that your family would be her first and last resort for comfort, protection and love. If you wont accept and love your own child, who else would? Afterall, her genes and even personality traits came from her mother and father. Sa inyo rin naman nanggaling ang kanyang dugo at laman. At the end of the day, whether you are able or not to change her, just be a parent: loving, understanding, accepting. Especially in her case, most of the world is still hostile to such gravely misuderstood and demonized abnormality. She will need all the love you can give. Just be a mother, not a therapist, not a moralist, not a judge. Afterall, there is not one law against, not even a mention of, lesbianism in the Old Testament, the Law that Jesus superceded/voided by his teaching and new command: LOVE people unconditionally. Be strong and caring; this daugher needs your parental love more than your other normal children.
Posted on: Wed, 16 Jul 2014 21:08:18 +0000
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