So, I live by myself. That means Im talking to you! Anyway, since your there and dont have anything better to do than I do, even if you do feel smug, because your reading this; Ive been studying some new concepts on and about attitudes, positive mental attitudes and etc. and I have noticed there are so many points of view. I did hear something very interesting Ive been pondering on. This guy, name later if you really want to know, said that it is impossible to be happy without using the power of comparison. To cut that to the chase of what he meant, he said that your mind can only relate to past input or experiences that made you happy in the past. Say for instance, you found a 5 dollar bill in the parking lot. Happy? Well, who wouldnt be? Unless your scamming the taxpayers with your government powers to the tunes of billions. So, you are happy you found the currency. How happy? Well, your mind recalls other past incidents of happiness and joy until it is compared down to its proper level of happy. So, If this is true, and it has to be, then the same would be true for sadness, unhappiness, correct. Well, I got to thinking. People often say that was the worst day of my life when my mom died. Or I havent been this sad since. Etc. so, if this is true, and again, it has to be. Then it made me think, our lives are filled with billions of moments of happiness or sadness at different degrees or levels, and of course boredom too. So our relationships are built on an individual basis of moments or acts which contribute to happiness or sadness in someone elses lives. Now, it would stand to reason that some people we love out of obligation and give them more chances based on that alone. Such as siblings. We suffer far more with family than we would with others. But like me, I have a brother who simply doesnt care for me and we no longer speak. So, aside from obligation relationships, our relationships, or love, if you will, is totally dependent upon the balance of happiness against sadness you have caused by actions, word or deed. We all know very well that a person can fall out of love just as easy as they fell in love. But is it possible for that to be instant? Not according to this theory. It would take a heavier balance of unhappiness than happiness to cause someone to fall out of love. Each person responds to the stimuli that they receive from the significant other. They compare each piece of stimuli to feelings from their past, even if it comes from further back in their past than the two in question have history together. So, my question is this. If all this is true, which it has to be, can only a few incidents of unhappiness destroy a relationship compared to an otherwise partnership filled with happiness? Are there degrees of severity involved? My guess is yes. That only one or more unhappy incidents can destroy a lifetime of happiness because we see it daily with divorce and break ups. But it goes against this principle. Why? My guess is because one element has not been discussed here in this theory that is a game changer or not. You guessed it, Forgiveness, or the lack there of. What say you?
Posted on: Mon, 02 Jun 2014 06:47:07 +0000
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