Sometimes if you read my Facebook posts about men and marriage you (understandably) may misconstrue them to mean that Im anti-marriage and anti-men. This isnt the case. Throughout my journey thus far, I have encountered many married couples who are content with each other, and Im genuinely happy for them. My spirits continue to soar when I hear of an engagement/wedding in the family. And I recognise that in Islam, like in other religions, marriage is encouraged for various reasons - many profound. I also acknowledge that there are respectful, ethical, kind souls - both, male and female - in the world. However there is also a time and place for everything. And as much as well-meaning people insist that you will meet the one some day, theres also a strong possibility that you wont. So to all the single women out there who are depressed this holiday season Because Im the only one whos alone at the family braais, who shrink in significance in their own minds thereby projecting a depleted sense of self-worth, who overeat out of a sense of neediness, who embark on toxic relationships with men who just want flings, who due to societal and self perception have convinced themselves that they are lesser beings because they are not married, I say: You cant live your life chasing a maybe or waiting for what you hope is a probability. Things are what they are. Embrace them. See the beauty in them. In that mother or father who you are taking care of. In those friends and relatives who stand by you, no matter what. In the security of that income you earn. In the embrace of that child youve been blessed with. In those summery flowers which are dancing in the garden. In the scent of the raindrops falling outside. In the giggly tumbles of your nieces and nephews. See the beauty in your own soul. Love your qualities with humility. Reflect and reconstruct your weaknesses. Mostly open your soul to the beauty of God. In His Sight you are no less of a woman because youre unmarried. But you become less of it when you bitterly fight it and resent it. So until you meet your soul mate (and be ever mindful of the fact that you may not meet him and even if you dont, its okay) embrace those around you, embrace that which lies within you and embrace He who Surrounds you. Fatima Cassim Haseena Dee Fahrial Amla Naseema Mall Khairunnisa Khan Bibi Z Bytes Fatima Dangor Shafinaaz Hassim Shubnum Khan
Posted on: Sun, 28 Dec 2014 01:57:51 +0000
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