Stop feeding the entitlement mentality. Your kids need to struggle and suffer when they are young! Ill give you one example: college kids looking at off-campus housing options. In some cities, sparkling new apartments with granite countertops, stainless steel appliances, hardwood floors, etc. are filling up...while they are having trouble filling the much less expensive, slightly dated apartments without all the bells and whistles. Why? Its not the students fault. Human nature says college kids (and all of us) want the nicest possible place to live. Its the parents. Parents are spending more on apartments for their kids than many young families spend. No, its not a safety issue. They just want their kids to be happy. And in doing so, they are guaranteeing their kids will never be happy or content. When everything is given to you, it means nothing. We are robbing this generation of a great gift: feeling the satisfaction of working hard; scrimping, scratching and saving; being patient and waiting; being content with what you have; earning what you get. These are the same kids who will be on HGTV as 27-year-old newlyweds (loaded with debt) complaining, I wont be happy unless I have granite countertops. No, you will NEVER be happy. When you are given everything, you no longer crave the internal pride that comes from earning it. I know this is harsh, but I have a close relationship with my son and hes used to this so he can take it. Plus he knows what it means to delay gratification and wait. I just told him, You can get granite countertops and hardwood floors when youve actually accomplished something in life. He laughed because he gets it. He knows Im proud of him. And hes going to be thankful for what he does get. You are exhibiting great love for your kids when you say no and allow them to struggle. Thanks for loving them enough to do so!
Posted on: Tue, 30 Sep 2014 20:34:14 +0000
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