Suicide…One of the most heart wrenching, difficult losses for loved ones left behind to process. We grieve over the actual cause that brought our loved ones to that decision, then we grieve over what the suicide has caused in our own lives. I have struggled for so many years with the what could I have done?, if only I would have…, it wouldnt have happened if…. Those thoughts ate me up for so many years and broke me for too long. And now as of 2 weeks ago, I ask myself the same questions. If I only wouldnt have missed that call, If only I would have done this, or done that. Everyone who is touched by suicide wrestles with Why? Why did this happen? Why did it have to come to this? But no matter what reasons there were for the suicide, in the end, it can never be completely explained. You are left with questions that cant be answered because the person who committed suicide is gone. We will never understand. But we are not supposed to. We have to trust in God that He is the only one that understands and because of that, we must stop beating ourselves up. The pain is gone for those that have left us. They are suffering no more. The best and only thing we can do is live each day that we have better than the last. Find treasure in tragedy. I for one have seen so much change in my friends since the death of our friend Brandon. The little things that seemed so important, just arent anymore. The bond he has left between us all cannot be broken. Brandon said once Dont strive to make your presence noticed, just make your absence felt. He has a message for us even through his death. Those that loved him and knew what he was truly about, hear this message loud and clear. Suicide is the 10th leading cause of death in the US! It has taken a beloved celebrity to take his own life to get people talking about it. But in a few days, people will move on and it will stop showing up on your news feed. But minute by minute, people are contemplating taking their own lives that you may know, may love, may be close with. We need to take a step outside our comfort zone and our own selfish needs and look around us to see and hear the pain of those that are close to the edge. Talk to them about it! Stop the belief that if I bring it up to that person and voice my concern, they may get the idea and then do it. Trust me, 9 out of 10 people have thought about it. Youre not inventing the wheel. Trust your instincts and get them help. Even if its to sit down and shut up and listen. But most of all, trust in God that only he can give us the wisdom we need. Blessed is the man who trusts in the LORD, whose trust is the LORD. He is like a tree planted by water, that sends out its roots by the stream, and does not fear when heat comes, for its leaves remain green, and is not anxious in the year of drought, for it does not cease to bear fruit. (Jeremiah 17:7-8)
Posted on: Wed, 13 Aug 2014 18:59:50 +0000
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