TL;DR Summary at the end for all yall who dont like to read, I know that college struggle (community question at the bottom too) I am writing this really late so forgive my randomness and my potentially crazy ideas. So my ex-girlfriend (of 3-years) and I always used to watch House of Cards on Netflix together (no matter if you have seen the show youll get the reference). We have been broken up for a while, Ive been single and been really enjoying my time and she started dating almost immediately after we broke up. The break up was weird because we were best friends but it was something that we needed because she was changing as a person. I didnt want to be with someone who didnt want as long-term of a relationship as I wanted, and by the way she was treating me and our relationship she wanted something less serious and we were both content with ending it so we didnt get hurt even more the longer that it lasted (relationships go both ways, and I was unhappy because she was unhappy). THE MAIN POINT OF THIS CONFESSION: A friend of mine told me that she was talking about how Frank Underwood (lead character of House of Cards) and Claire Underwood (Franks wife in the show and another lead character on the show) are the perfect couple and this actually got to my head. When we were watching the show together we had said that I was Frank and she was Claire, and now Im thinking about her again. I know it was such a cliche couple thing to compare ourselves to a TV show but for her to talk about the Frank and Claire relationship has really gotten me confused. I was sure that she had completely forgotten about me and stopped caring (which with the way the last 6 months of our relationship went I was sure already happened), but now I dont know. Before any of this House of Cards stuff I heard from people that she said that she missed me and missed talking to me so I knew that she was at least thinking about me. I have already moved on and got over not being in the relationship anymore, but I guess I am posting this hoping she might see this and realize that she doesnt have to avoid me and not talk to me if she doesnt want to. If she misses me (even remotely as a friend) and wants to talk to me I am fine with that, and I want to ask the UCR Confessions Community Commenters if being willing to talk to an ex (as a friend) will make a person go crazy. I am not expecting anything out of this and being single has shown me that I dont really need to be in a relationship to make myself happy and to be honest, I dont know if I would even want to be in one again at the moment; but I just want to get this out there. If she wants to be my friend again she can contact me, if not she does not have to, I dont really care either way, I just dont want her to feel scared of talking to me. In Summary: My ex and I havent talked in months. She has told people she misses being friends with me. She made a reference to a TV show that we put ourselves into and that got me thinking about our friendship again. Not talking to her wasnt getting to me but I am thinking about it. I feel like she is too afraid to talk to me again and I want to indirectly let her know it is ok to contact me. (and depending on the commenters answers if I should contact her) My question for the commenters: Does talking to your ex (as a friend) make you go crazy because of the past relationship? If an ex wants to be friends but you dont care either way should they contact you? I just want to know if anyone has had experience being a friend with their ex, good or bad? - F.U.
Posted on: Fri, 05 Dec 2014 04:00:01 +0000
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