TOXIC HURTING RELATIONSHIP AND YOU… Are you afraid of confronting someone in your life who is critical, judgmental or just cant be happy for your success? Some relationships constantly drain your energy, in both obvious and subtle ways. Several types of people will exhaust you or deter you from your path to living a fulfilled life. THE BLAMER---This person likes to hear his own voice. He constantly complains about what isnt working in his life and yet gets energy from complaining and dumping his frustrations on you. THE DRAINER---This is the needy person who calls to ask for your guidance, support, information, advice or whatever she needs to feel better in the moment. Because of her neediness, the conversation often revolves around her, and you can almost feel the life being sucked out of you during the conversation. THE SHAMER---This person wants you to be in shame and humiliation all the time. This person can be hazardous to your health. The shamer may cut you off, put you down, reprimand you, or make fun of your or your ideas in front of others. He often ignores your boundaries and may try to convince you that his criticism is for you own good. The shamer is the kind of person who makes you question your own sanity before his. THE DISCOUNTER---This is the person who discounts or challenges everything you say. Often, she has a strong need to be right and can find fault with any position. It can be exhausting to have a conversation with the discounter, so eventually you end up giving in and deciding to just listen. THE GOSSIP---This person avoids intimacy by talking about other behind their backs. The gossip gets energy from relaying stories, opinions, and the latest scoop. By gossiping about others, he creates a lack of safety in his relationships, whether he realizes it or not. After all, if hell talk about someone else, hell talk about you. Wondering how to confront people who drain you mentally, physically and spiritually? Once you have identified that you have a toxic relationship in your life, there are specific words that you can use to confront this family member or friend in a graceful, loving way. Your goal is not necessary to sever all relationships; its to set boundaries with this person. Tell the person the truth that you are not happy in the relationship and boldly ask that he/she will stop hurting you
Posted on: Mon, 26 May 2014 13:29:09 +0000
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