Thank you for firing my Boyfriend! When I first learned of my - TopicsExpress

Thank you for firing my Boyfriend! When I first learned of my Boyfriend being laid off just one week before Christmas, I was overwhelmed with emotions. I was scared, confused, sad, hurt, and VERY angry! I immediately took on the role of a martyr and began feeling sorry for my boyfriend, myself, and our children. How could he do this? And How dare he?! Were phrases I spoke often of his cruel, and heartless boss of 18 years! I was flabbergasted that his boss of 18 years could just up and lay him off one week before Christmas with no warning, and no severance pay. This Is the same guy who continually promised to make my Boyfriend Curtis, a partner in his construction company. This Is the same guy who was a friend of the family BEFORE he became Curtis s boss. This is the same guy who expected SO much from his employees, yet gave SO little in return! I was angry. So.Very.Angry!! Then on my way home last night after dropping my Son off with his Father, I was thinking about the events over the last few days, and I once again became overwhelmed with emotion. This time it was gratitude!!! Gratitude for all of the amazing support, and kindness. All of the job offers, the wonderful folks offering to buy our children Christmas presents, and the kind words of encouragement, and inspiration! I was so overwhelmed in fact, that I began to cry. I wasnt crying tears of sadness, however, but tears of cleansing, and enlightenment. My gratitude was so huge, that it even led me to forgive Curtis s boss. I began to thank him. I thanked him for letting Curtis go to be FREE!!! Free for new opportunities, BETTER opportunities! He really did us a favor. You see, Curtis got his contractors license a few months ago, which gives him the opportunity to work for himself, where money can be much more abundant than when working for a company. He basically forced Curtis to face his biggest fear of losing his job, and not being able to provide for his family. Curtis busted his ass day after day for that man. He took verbal abuse, low wages, zero benefits, and no appreciation just to make sure his job was secure. Job security came BEFORE everything else in Curtis s life. Providing for his family was number one. In the blink of an eye Curtis s world came crashing down around him. What did he do? Picked himself up, and went to work searching for work.....he didnt wallow in self pity, he didnt blame his boss, he took action! And it paid off! He got a great job offer today, and he starts Tuesday! I am so proud of the Man that he is. He has a beautiful soul, and an amazing work ethic! I love him so much, and am so grateful to have him in my life! So back to the moral of this story! I am a pessimist by nature. Pretty sure its hereditary in my family! When I or someone I love is wronged, treated unjustly, or just walked on like a doormat, I get ANGRY!! I think of the worst case scenario, and blame the perpetrator right off the bat, facts or not! So really Im being a hypocrite, by acting out of anger just as the enemy does. So in realizing last night that Curtis s boss did us a favor, as opposed to hurting us, I freed myself!!! I freed myself of unnecessary anger, and bitterness. I freed myself of self-limiting thoughts, and behavior. I opened up my life and my mind to possibility. I let go of all of that pent up rage I felt. It really was a big weight being lifted from my soul. We spend our entire lives contorting in every which way, sacrificing, and even subjecting ourselves time and time again JUST to keep our worst case scenarios from becoming reality. Curtis s worst case scenario was losing his job. He did everything right to keep that fear from becoming his reality. Yet it wasnt enough. He lost his job anyway. Guess what? His worst case scenario has become his BEST CASE SCENARIO! I have learned so damn much from this bump in our lives, that I cannot help but thank his boss enough for laying Curtis off!! Life truly is what you make it. And if you pay attention you can find good in any worst case scenario! Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and grab life by the reins, because YOU create your reality, and only you! No one else can do it for you! Your happiness, success, failures....all you!! It is up to you to find the good in the bad, because that is entirely what makes or breaks the situation. You get what you give..... So thank you Jim Gemperline for laying off my boyfriend. You did him a favor. You did me a favor. Regardless of your intentions, whatever they may be, we came out stronger, and wiser on the other side. For that I am so grateful!