The Art of Giving and Receiving a Gift by J. Richard Kirkham As an in home computer tutor here in Honolulu Hawaii and one of the best virus removal specialists on Oahu, I had the opportunity to both give and receive a gift yesterday in a manner that left both of us feeling fulfilled and not beholden to one another. godsbusinessway/index.php/topic,5397.new.html If you are not on this share your opinion and life journey post, please click the link above. If you share this article, please keep the courtesy link above intact. God bless you. How This Got Started A friend of mine from New Hope Voyager Church NHVoyager referred someone to me she had met to remove computer viruses from her Windows 8 computer. It turns out she is a nun at a private school. The sister called me up and asked me what I charge. I told her normally $75.00 per hour and that it usually takes me one to two hours to remove the computer virus. I stated, “But you’re a religious person, a spiritual person so whatever you’re comfortable with is just fine.” She was kind of hesitant, I sensed she was trying to be fair with me. I stated, “Sister, you don’t have to decide now. I’m going to help you anyway.” She was relieved and I saw her for her appointment at her school. When I got there she started the computer for me and gave me a 32 gig flash drive amazon/gp/search/ref=as_li_qf_sp_sr_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&index=aps&keywords=flash%20drive&linkCode=ur2&tag=shosavandmakm-20 to backup her fies. I smiled and stated I would not need that. The Computer Virus was Nasty Several nasty computer viruses in fact. One of the computer viruses had shut down Windows Defender godsbusinessway/index.php/topic,4997.0.html , the built in antivirus software for Windows 8. After that other nasty viruses came right through the security hole. It took me a full two hours to remove the computer viruses which is unusual for me now. I once joked with an in home computer virus removal client that I was getting so good at this it was costing me money :) I told the sister I was about done. She said, but the office said they couldn’t help me and asked, How were you able to do it?” I pointed to the sky and said, “With His gifts. He put me in martial arts godsbusinessway/index.php?action=forum#c6 so no matter what happens I don’t quit and I keep getting back up. He gave me ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder) which I learned to control through martial arts. My people (people with ADHD) focus on one or two things and get very good at them. We also cannot let go of a problem which my computer clients love.” The Sister Said, “You know when you said you were going to help me anyway because I was a religious person that meant a lot to me.” I said, “I was glad. I often help churches and low income people with what I call my ‘Whatever you’re comfortable with price’. I’m glad I was able to help you.” The sister said, “Well, I can offer you my prayers” I smiled and said, “That’s fine sister and I thank you for that. If you’ll excuse me I’m going to start packing up now. What’s This? As I was standing and putting things away the sister came beside me, held my wrist and placed some money in it. I did not look til later how much money she had given me, which was not important to me anyway. Now for you mainland folks, we do a lot of hugging and kissing (the cheek) here in Hawaii. Out of reflex I started to hug and kiss the sister and stopped myself. I excused myself and told her what I almost did. She stated that was okay so for the first time that I can recall I thanked a nun by hugging and kissing her on the cheek. Even With This Additional Gift The Sister was Concerned… I was not concerned and I was honored by her sacrifice. She said something to me like, is that enough or I hope that’s enough. Now this moment was very important. I wanted the sister to know everything was just fine. God gave me a lot of sales and public relations training WordsThatSellForYou I called upon God and everybit of experience He had given me to find the right words so the sister would understand how honored I was for being able to help and for her token of appreciation. I said, “Sister, it doesn’t matter to me if I think this is a lot of money. What matters to me is this is a lot of money to you.” The sister was pleased now pleased with her gift and not feeling beholden to me for any reason. We had each honored each other with our gifts. Why Did I Accept The Money from The Sister? If you’re asking this I don’t think you read this very carefully, but I will elaborate from both a business point of view and a point of honor. Let’s start with that nasty old strictly business point of view first. It’s very bad business to work for absolutely free. The client can get the feeling your time is not truly valuable nor are your skills. When I utilize the “Whatever you’re comfortable with” price, people are fair, they don’t call me for mininee (little) things and I can continue to make a living to take care of my own bills and family. Now to the point of honor. If I would have given the sister back her money she would continued to feel beholden to me and that she had received charity. By accepting and demonstrating true gratitude for her gift of appreciation, she could now feel as though she help me with my time and skills as much as I helped her. Conclusion I believe an exchange of gifts should make both parties feel grateful toward one another, but an exchange of gifts should not make one party feel as though he/she owes more to the other person. Both should feel honored and happy for the time and thought the other took to prepare the gift, whether the gift is time, skill or a more traditional present. Rick J. Richard Kirkham B.Sc. GodsBusinessWay
Posted on: Thu, 13 Mar 2014 17:23:02 +0000
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