The Power of Fear! There are several things that have a whole lot of power or control over us as humans. Some of those are greed , love and fear. The most powerful is love as it helps to break the bonds of the others that grip us and strangle our enjoyment of life. That is topic for another time though! Right now I want to talk about fear and how it can get a hold on you so tight you are frozen in place and or immobilized to the point when wonderful opportunities present themselves you cannot take advantage of them. Over my life time I have had countless times when opportunities to make a lot of money so I could be financially secure and I was to afraid to move forward with them and take full advantage of those situations. Afraid of what you ask? In my case I was afraid of failure. There isnt much I am afraid of in this world but failure causes me to become over powered with a demoralizing fear. It eats me to the core of my being so much it has always been the reason for my depression symptoms. If you have never experienced the self depredation then you wont understand what I just said. Let me put it this way for those who out of curiosity more that any other reason are reading this post. The fear I am talking about is like you have to face a ravenous lion who happens to be very hungry. If you have fear it will attack you and ferociously to take control of you so you cannot fight back. If you can just resist the urge to let panic set in you have a good chance at survival and being happy! This is what failure does to me. Everybody has fear of something and some of those are small and inconsequential but others are large and very real to those who face them. For instance my youngest son has social anxiety. That means he has a fear of PEOPLE! So much that he can experience a gripping fear so great he cannot breathe. He is in counselling for this and is doing much better but it will be his Achilles heel for the rest of his life. He takes medicines for it which greatly helps him but it is never going away! What this means is he has challenges just in applying for a job and the interview is a huge step he has to go through. He has to hope that he doesnt have an episode during that process or he wont get the job. I had never heard of this until he told me about it but I see the evidence of it when we go places out of necessity! He took me to the Wound Center I go to for my Venous ulcer and while they were cleaning it I was stressed from the pain and he had a full blown episode and had to run out of the room to get himself back to breathing correctly again. He picked up from my stressed and that caused his stress. We now try to help each other avoid these situations so neither of us has undo stress. The effects on my personal life was, well to say the least devastating. My ex didnt want any part to do with any of the opportunities I had so I had these fear attacks and it showed up in our financial picture! I dont blame her because it wasnt and still isnt her problem. It was mine and mine alone, yet I did not understand what my problem was at that time. Just a few days ago I finally understood what had been the root of my problem all those years of failure. I feared it so much I perpetuated it and made it my history and nobody else. I write this because we are a family and as such I have shared before and found out many others have many similar challenges like as I have had and still do. You see just because you understand something does not mean you magically have a cure for that issue! It may be, but most generally that isnt that case. Though information gives you the upper hand to control what ever your challenge is. I am trying to get into counselling so I can fight this both mentally and medically! If you are someone you know has like symptoms just know they are very real to them though many times its only a matter of perception on their part but they still grip them to immobilize them. Give them understanding and dont add to their stress as that can cause irreparable harm to there psyche. If they dont understand what is happening just encourage them to seek help and leave it at that and continue being a friend! Here is just one of many links that have documented that social anxiety really does exist! There are many others on youtube! https://youtube/watch?v=gmEJEfy5f50
Posted on: Tue, 16 Dec 2014 19:15:52 +0000
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