The Science Behind Online Dating Proprietary algorithms, tests, and questionnaires that promise to match you with a mate provide an air of awe and confidence with a glint of the scientific. But the questions feeding these algorithms are highly suspect. Firstly, to match someone with a potential mate, these questionnaires need to be answered honestly and accurately... and they arent (more on that coming shortly). But, the questions these surveys ask are really about dating, not relationships… and there is a big difference between dating someone today and being compatible for the long term. Where are the questions about environment, economic conditions, and outside influences? (Example: Long-standing research shows that when couples encounter stress or unexpected demands on their energy, their satisfaction with their relationship declines, often leading to break-up or divorce.) Why dont these dating sites take critical happenings, variables and milestones into account when evaluating compatibility — money management, financial strain, losing a job, illness, death of a parent, moving, raising kids (not do you want kids, but rather, asking questions about parenting style and actually raising kids). The truth is that these questions are very difficult questions to ask. So, its not the dating sites fault for not being able to bring them up. But these are questions/considerations that need to be taken into account. If online dating sites claim to help find lasting love — a match —questions like these are a crucial part of evaluating long-term companionship. And while the questions these surveys do ask are usually centered on individual wants, needs, behaviors, and characteristics, they only address a very small part of what makes human beings compatible. These compatibility tests don’t take into account upbringing, childhood environment and/or teenage influences, nor do they address changing attitudes and needs. And, again, this is all assuming the respondents are telling the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. How often do you think that happens? Read more:
Posted on: Fri, 29 Aug 2014 15:19:46 +0000
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