The WEDDING RING I woke up this morning with this thought,and as I came out of my compound to head for work the thought just kept coming again and again and I felt I should share it with you. I can remember asking this question sometime last year,Why do some married people step out of their homes without their Wedding Rings? and I had a small moment of revelation about the significance of wearing a wedding ring. I’ve always thought that wearing a wedding ring was just a sign of the commitment you are making to your spouse and to your marriage. Not to pretend that it all depends on you because it’s about a relationship and a vocation, and about God’s blessing on that relationship. But to see the wearing of the ring as a constant sign of your own re-dedication and re- commitment to this relationship, and to make this continuing acknowledgement of your marital commitment public by wearing a ring. The ring becomes, as it were, a public profession of your marriage and what it continues to mean to you. This is why in a movie I watched(Bruce Willis in the first scene of Unbreakable), when a husband meets a stranger on a train and starts plotting how he might hook up with her, he quietly slips his wedding ring off and puts it in his pocket. But I heard the words of the wedding rite as if for the first time, and this is absolutely not what the wearing of the ring signifies. Here they are: With this ring I wed thee,Take this ring as a sign of my love and fidelity. In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit. Amen. So the ring that is given is a sign of the love and fidelity of the one who gives it. The ring that you wear, that was placed on your finger by your spouse on your wedding day,does not just represent your commitment to your marriage,your love for your spouse,your faithfulness to this relationship and to the vocation God has called you into, etc. It represents the commitment,love and faithfulness of your spouse to you. The ring is not there, first of all, as a sign of your continuing commitment to this person although of course it can come to mean that as well. It’s an ongoing reminder of the promise that the other person has made to you. It’s a sign of the covenant that your spouse has made with you, and that God has sealed, and that you have freely embraced and entered into. The same covenant that you have also made with your spouse. That you are not used to it yet(smiling in quotes)or you are not used to wearing jewelleries or even forgot,shouldnt be an excuse,you could have as well forgotten to use it on your wedding day and just read the vows without it. If you forgot to wear it today,yesterday and somedays back,it gradually means it meant nothing to you in the first place,please have a rethink and do the right thing. The ring on your fourth finger is a symbol of the reminder of the promise that another has made to you,and of the promise that God has made to you both. I know that life, and marriage, are not always tidy or easy, but I think there is a truth worth pondering here. Whenever you are dressed and about going,check your finger and ensure its in there,it shuts the door to a lot of evil you meet on the way,it helps you focused as a married man/woman and indirectly/directly help you flee from every appearance of evil,it makes people honour you and respect you,it adds taste and value to your marriage. You can forget wearing your wrist watch,bangles, earrings,ties,socks, makeup,etc.But please dont forget to wear your Wedding Ring
Posted on: Sat, 01 Mar 2014 12:20:52 +0000