The Wrong Reasons for Staying Married (part one) Are you staying married for the wrong reasons? (Published on July 18, 2011 by Mel Schwartz, L.C.S.W. ) The institution of marriage often falls short of its promise. Marriage is designed to be - at least in modern Western times - a structure to foster and secure loving feelings to enhance each others life. On a practical note, it is also intended as a foundation for family structure and to facilitate and expedite our life experience. Certainly we might agree that the purpose of marriage ought to be to enhance ones life. Yet this supposition meets with an incredible rate of disappointment, if not outright failure. Ironically, marriage often becomes the justification for peoples unhappiness. The fact that more than fifty percent of marriages end in divorce is actually the lesser of the problem. The greater difficulty lies in the fact that the majority of intact marriages are far from joyful. And many people regrettably live out their lives that way. Divorce, although tumultuous and potentially scarring, at least provides the possibility of better days. Remaining in the lethargy of an unhappy marriage, dulled by the absence of a more hopeful vision, can be downright depressing. And yet, so many people resign themselves to such lives. *************************************************** (I am not promoting divorce/ I am hopeful negative relationships can be turned around to be flourishing)
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