The honeymoon phase or the initial phase involving lovebombing and the alluring cycle encompasses a phase in which the narcissist tries to win you over with charm and deception. Progression involves tension building as the mask slowly falls and the true character begins to appear, which the narcissist cannot keep up with the facade and fantasy of being someone he/she is not. The misrepresentation, the lies, the secretive lifestyle, the sense of grandiose superiority and constant need for approval will become revealed. Mirroring and projection, become more apparent as the narcissist tries to cover up the wrongdoings while placing blame and making false accusations. The victim tries to keep the peace becoming co dependent, as the narc tries to make you feel sorry and empathetic of his/her bad luck. The victim starts withdrawing from friends and family, begins to second guess self, begins to question their own motives and actions rather than the accuser. For the victim its a time of simply going along with the actions, walking on eggshells, not truly trusting their own actions yet trying to remain silent as to not upset the narcissist while the narc becomes more aggressive, demanding, sulken, and pitiful. The victim may begin cooking his/her favorite dinner, staying home more, anything to appease the constant demands to the detriment of themselves becoming exhausted in every regard and ignoring their own needs. The final is the devalue and discard accompanied by more angered emotions possibly including violence. The victim has begun to realize the lies and has begun to see the truth questioning the actions of the narc and seeing the narcissists for who they truly are. The narcissist becomes angered using tactics involving mind games, manipulation, degradation, threats, intimidation, fear, abuse to illicit control, power, and attention for his/her own selfish needs. This is the most dangerous time as often this is when the victim wishes to exit the relationship.The cycle repeats with the next target unaware of the hidden dangers of the narcissist. lexi
Posted on: Tue, 14 Oct 2014 14:45:47 +0000
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