The rate at which relationships break up these days is alarming - TopicsExpress

The rate at which relationships break up these days is alarming and has become a thing of great concern both to counselors and the society at large. Please permit me to focus on marriage and not just any form of love relationship, reason being that marriage is more legal and to an extent, according to marriage vows,expected to last for ever. Have you ever observed that marriage vow has no provision for divorce? And interestingly, it seems to be the same vow all over the world. Then, where does divorce come from? Why should couples even consider it as an option? Does it solve any problems? Are people ‘truly happy’ after a divorce or separation? Is it possible to have a good relationship with your ex and his/her siblings? How do you cope with the hurt and overwhelming feeling of forgiveness? Here are a few things which can cause problems in Marriage/relationships. •Negligence:Whether they are voiced or assumed,in every relationship, there are expectations of what each partner is supposed to do for mutual existence. The man should deliver his responsibility well, while the woman should not be found wanting in any sense of the word. Once you don’t do what you are supposed to, you are calling for trouble. •Analysis: Couples who argue so much and want everything to follow a particular pattern, easily have problems. Life is easy, try and overlook some things for peace to reign. Marriage is not the right place for you to prove how intelligent you are. •Wrong choice of words: If you can watch and control your tongue, a whole deal of your problems would be gone. Dishing sarcastic comments is not healthy for the relationship and studies have shown that even after apologies, the wounds refuse to heal completely. •Infidelity: Please try as much as practicable not to give your spouse any cause to doubt your love for him/her. Just the way you promised at the beginning of the marriage, keep to one partner and derive pleasure in each other. •Care: Care makes it easy for you to love, give, respect, support, encourage and do a lot more than an ordinary relationship could offer................T-BEEZOYLORD*******Jstsayin#