•Things change dont they? Some of us have an inner struggle of dealing with change,we hate it and we fear it. Have you ever wished that somebody couldve given you a sign or a warning ahead of a change that was about to happen, and you think to yourself that maybe,maybe then it wouldve been easier to accept? These are the 3 things that bring upon change: 1)When something fails,or we lose what we had or what weve built falls apart. It breaks us when weve invested so much emotions,time and hard work on something and it doesnt work out. 2)When our plans are not going the way we envisioned. Id think Ive got it all figured out and well planned,this Ill cross the bridge when I get there thing,doesnt work for me,In fact I dont even know how people do it.Im the kind that likes planning for everything ahead of time to at least have direction of where Im going. However, we forget that plans are just a layout of how we WANT things to go,we tend to take our plans to be exactly what WILL happen,and when things dont go our way,it frustrates us. 3)When the people weve held dear are no longer part of our lives. Losing someone is never easy to deal with,whether its through death,a broken relationship or even a friendship that has faded away,its not easy because you were close to this person and shared memories with them,and now things are no longer the same,suddenly you have to live without them in your life. Which brings me to the understanding that it is not particularly change we hate or fear,it is actually the events that bring upon change.When these things happen, they shift us from what weve always known and are familiar with,and thats what we dont like.We dont like being shifted from our comfortable spaces.We dont want our lives,plans and routines interrupted. What we want is things to remain within our comfort zone and not change,but do you know what else we want? We want things to improve! But how else do things improve except through change? Although change may be uncomfortable, it sure helps us grow and gives us direction.for instance,how many times have you looked back and actually noticed that your in a better position now and a better person because of some change that happened in your life a while back? I dont exactly know what happened in your life that caused things to change ,and I cant tell you why it had to be you and not somebody else,I dont know why it had to be that day,I dont know what your plans were in life,and I dont know why you no longer have what u held dear...but this I know,that if we constantly wish things could go back to the way they were,or if we keep blaming that which happened to be the reason we are like this today,we will never move forward ,heal or grow. So if youre going through a change at this point in your life or still struggling to deal with a change that happened back then,I want you to know that there is a way to get through it : 1)ACCEPTANCE Acknowledge what happened, running away from it will only prolong the struggle to accept it. 2)FORGIVENESS When you have acknowledged what happened, it is easier to forgive. Stop blaming Yourself or Somebody else for what happened,forgive that person and if needs be,forgive yourself too. 3)LET GO Once you have forgiven,it is easier to let go of what was and the pain of wishing things could go back to how they were. 4)ADAPT AND START AFRESH Once you have let go of what was,it is easier to move on and adapt to the change it even helps you make a fresh start. I hope this has helped somebody,stay blessed! :) ~Jean Etteno
Posted on: Wed, 03 Sep 2014 09:47:09 +0000
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