This Weeks Pearl of Wisdom: You Get What You Give I bet you’re thinking with this title....”well, yeah!” How obvious can it get? I get it. “You get what you give”, what’s so hard about understanding that? Please allow me to explain. I cannot tell you how many times I have sat across from a client, a friend, a relative while in a session or a conversation and as I am stating those words...”well, yeah, you get what you give”, the person I am in a conversation with responds, “huh?” As they were telling me a story about their husband, their wife, their significant other, their friend, their parent that did something to annoy them, said something to upset them, never once did they take into account what they did to create the situation in the first place. It never occurred to them to examine their own behavior in the scenario of the story they are telling me and think to themselves, “what did I do to provoke or deserve how this person is treating me?” You get what you give. If you constantly point a finger at someone else, blaming them for how you feel, what you did, how you reacted, eventually, the people in your life are going to give back to you what you give them. They are going to point the finger back at you, blame you for how they feel, what they did, how they reacted. If no one in a relationship is willing to take responsibility for their 50% in the cause of a problem, everyone ends up divorced, broken up, disliking and disassociating with each other and wondering how they got to this place in their lives. Then they come to someone like me, a therapist!
Posted on: Wed, 12 Mar 2014 15:18:12 +0000
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