This is a article I found.. to me it is perfectly said: Im a bereaved parent who wishes there was a term like orphan or widow to describe my status. Some say there is no such title because death of a child is to awful to put into words. Some say that historically, a child dying was such common event that it didnt merit a special word. Also Ive heard it said that the passing of a child doesnt affect the societal status of the surviving parent in the way that widow or orphan does. Im here to say that its awful for me to think its too awful an event to give a name to. It happens everyday to countless parents like me, and I get no comfort from the denial. The other idea , that its so commonplace that theres no need for a name, seems to diminish the monumental impact of the loss of a child. While its true that children died more often in the past, its no longer the case today. I think our language needs to catch up. As far as the notion of our status in society being unchanged, although we are not orphaned or widowed we are forever marked . I think the word shadow is a good description. We are a shadow of our former selves, even as we move on. We will always have the shadow of our departed child . It has the familiar Dow in it. Im going to start using it, and hope that others will join me.....Thanks
Posted on: Sat, 01 Nov 2014 11:48:36 +0000
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