This is a useful example of what our media-driven cultural standards for beauty encourage not only for young girls, but their family members view on them and the effects on relationships. We might like to twist things and say that the fathers concerns were about health, but that is not what he so honestly stated. I applaud his genuine honesty. It helps to make it clear that social fear is at the root of his attitudes. These social fears, he admits, limited his love and acceptance of his daughter. To put it bluntly, his love for her is conditional as he chose to buy into and submit to social norms that drove him to encourage his daughter to undergo a radically dangerous procedure. Ive found that actually loving and accepting people, just as they are, invigorates more of a desire for them to see themselves as love-worthy, and to begin to create loving action and boundaries for themselves. Harping, nagging, criticizing, and approaching them with attitudes of social fear, appears to offer rejection, which adds more gasoline to the cycle of self-hate fire, which ignited the problem. Often parents of overweight kids criticize out of their own embarrassment and own lack of self-acceptance, which simply makes the child feel shamed and want to hide and eat more. Our society offers the same reactions. Certainly, centrally it is about an individual learning to love and value them self, regardless of what is going on outside of them. Since we are social creatures, it is about choosing those relationships which are not toxic to our progress towards love and the constructive results. I believe Love is the primary thing which ignites healthy loving action. For Love covers over (and blinds us to) a multitude of sin (missing the mark). huffingtonpost/2014/01/28/jill-roberts-jill-strasburg-oprah-show-gastric-bypass_n_4675846.html?icid=maing-grid7%7Cmain5%7Cdl1%7Csec1_lnk2%26pLid%3D436421
Posted on: Thu, 30 Jan 2014 16:15:14 +0000
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