This video was on the computer on a suggested YouTube on my screen, and I watched it because Ive been really interested in and even studying womens issues these last few months so I try to learn. But in this video Clementine Ford is in my opinion, voicing one of the most dangerous mindsets I can think of regarding the serious issue of rape. On the one hand how dangerous it is, but on the other hand refusing to give sound advice to potential victims, on how not to be victims. I appreciate this woman is dealing with a difficult topic, and I think a lot about what she says happens, actually does. The problem with her, and I went into great detail with this topic with my Developmental Psych teacher last semester, is that she is strangely unrealistic in what she is advising us to tell women -- especially young women. She says its a terrible rape culture, but its an act of terrorism to raise young girls to think it isnt safe. Huh? She says we shouldnt tell women to avoid situations where rape is common, I guess because the world shouldnt suck so lets pretend it doesnt? Does she really think that if she gets angry enough at men, that men will suddenly quit behaving the way they have for millions of years? Yes, I will go on record as telling women to do what they can to avoid situations where they will increase their chances of being raped. No, it is never your fault if you are attacked, but there is a whole lot you can do under the guise of risk management and not setting yourself up. If you go home with some drunken males you just met in a bar, you are placing yourself at their mercy. That doesnt give them permission to rape you, but it will give them the opportunity. Dont give rapists a chance to win -- this woman says its a shame to tell young girls they arent safe, during a talk which is focused on HOW UNSAFE girls are!! This woman has obviously been hurt and needs help; but to tell girls they should be able to act like we are in a pretend world where they are not in danger -- is in my opinion seeding the opportunity for many, many more who take her advice to heart, to either place themselves in harms way and do something that might even be life-and-death situations, because we think its wrong to warn women of what is and is not considered dangerous. She even discusses examples of women who pass out drunk and then are taken advantage of. And frankly her car analogy couldnt be more flawed. She was attacking a comparison that says if you dont want to have your car stolen, dont leave it open and running, in the middle of the street. She said it doesnt compare, because her v isnt like a car and it isnt like she just leaves it there to be taken. But the problem is, if a girl drinks until she passes out, around a bunch of these rowdy men that she so well describes as animalistic, then she is in fact like a car left open and no driver because she is not at the controls. Summary: 1) Yes its a dangerous world. 2) No lets not lie to our daughters about it just because we wish it werent that way, or withhold information that could potentially reduce their chance of being attacked, and 3) please get help and give someone else the microphone, and come back when you can recommend we tell the truth to our daughters, as plainly as youre trying to tell the truth to this audience. youtu.be/ATISgVUKetI
Posted on: Fri, 23 Jan 2015 21:14:19 +0000
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