Thoughts for the week: Ladies First Always...and again I say Rejoice! Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 1 Corinthians 7:3 - King James Version (1611) To the wife let the husband the due benevolence render, and in like manner also the wife to the husband; 1 Corinthians 7:3 - Youngs Literal Bible Let the husband render to his wife the affection owed her, and likewise also the wife to her husband. 1 Corinthians 7:3 - World English Bible 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 ESV The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.… HHHmmmm.... I think it is very interesting that the husband is commanded to give due benevolence (King James Version) or due affection (World English Bible) which is to say conjugal rights “first” - and then the wife is commanded to give due affection second. I am going to try and say this in a very discrete manner, but it does need to be talked about. Gentlemen, we would never think about playing any sports without warming up first. Football, soccer, basketball, baseball, even softball! We know from years of coaching that playing the game without proper warm up leads to injury and that can put you on the bench for the season. In the same way your wives need some warming up before the big game - because if you dont - you most likely will damage the relationship and no man wants to be thought of as a minute man or flash in the pan boy wonder. Take time be a good lover to your wife because she deserves it and she is worth it. It is important to think about more than just the game... there is pregame warm up, the game and post game rituals and they are all important. As we talked about before dwell with your wives according to knowledge. Knowledge of what she needs and wants, how she likes to play the game. This is where communication comes into play. If she is not satisfied then you have not accomplished anything. It is important to be a team player and not a ball hog because your team mate (wife) needs playing time as well. When you play the game like a gentleman you both win. A little delayed gratification goes a long way when you put her first. When you care more about her success than your own success it speaks volumes about your character and your heart towards her. When your spouse knows you have her best interest at heart it goes a long way in building the trust factors necessary for real intimacy. She will feel more loved and valued, she will feel more comfortable and both of you will have a more enjoyable journey. Next the Apostle Paul talks about the husband and wife submitting to one another having authority over each others bodies. When you enter a marriage contract it is important that the intent is to stay together for life. Its not rent to own or lease to buy. So in that regard do not deprive one another the affection the other needs and deserves. In other words dont be manipulative and withhold affection because this allows for a weakening of the emotional bond between yourselves. Dont make each other lonely - Nothing is as lonely as a marriage where there is no love or affection. Nothing is as lonely as a marriage without real intimacy. This month I have posted 4 articles about how the scriptures say husbands should treat their wives. The intent is to show the spirit we are to have towards our wives. First, In view of a life lived, if you could fast forward to the end of her life and look back at her experiences of a life with you as her man - are you proud of what you see? Second, hanging out with the wife should be the one thing you look forward to and third when she feels loved in the kitchen it effects the love in the bedroom in a positive way. Furthermore, when you take steps to care about her successes you create for her a position to rejoice about you being her man. It just makes good sense to be good to the one you have chosen, the one who has also chosen you. No one is perfect and we all have times when things dont go our way or dont turn out like we had hoped. However, if we consistently strive to be a better person and treat our most important human relationship with a little thoughtfulness and care - life will be better because of it. Dwell with your wife, love your wife...be good to your wife..so that your prayers may not be hindered (Ephesians 5:28). Love in a manner that you live with no regrets. ~Be blessed, Your friend Jordan~
Posted on: Sun, 24 Nov 2013 22:03:38 +0000