True Story **Long Status Alert**: When my last relationship ended, I decided to take a break from relationships and dating and focus on my faults. For the first year 1/2 I was single by choice. Over the next 6 1/2 years Im not sure what happened. I dated here and there trying to find someone to build something with and even revisited old flames that didnt work out hoping that maybe in our time apart wed matured a little. No luck. Around the third year of being single, I decided that I would focus on me and be brutally honest with myself at ALL times when it came to dating and relationships. If my relationships didnt work out, Id evaluate myself and point out the things I did or the things I missed or ignored and develop better ways to deal with or approach those situations. I learned how to be more honest and straight-forward with myself and the person I was dating. And I learned how to communicate my feelings, even though I still shut down when Im angry. Over the last two years Ive had the opportunity to talk to and, in a sense, counsel individuals and couples through their relationship issues; the good and the bad. Friends, family, and complete strangers have reached out to me and, together, weve successfully worked through some of their greatest obstacles and issues. In these last 8 years, Ive learned so much about myself in regards to who I am, what I have to offer, and what I deserve. And while I realize that there will always be room for growth and improvement, which I welcome, I am in a great place mentally and emotionally and I Love It! I shared all of that to say this: In your relationships, whether they be romantic or friendship, look for ways to be a better person and ways to grow out of every situation you face. And when you start looking for someone to blame when the relationship fails, start with yourself. Even if you didnt do anything directly, there was a sign that you ignored or overlooked because it wasnt a big deal. Learn and grow from these situations instead of harbouring ill feelings and developing hatred for a person who probably wont think twice about you in 2 days. After 8 years of ups, downs, trials, tribulations, bad judgement, temporary success, and acceptance of responsibility, Im in a great place! There is no room for doubt in regards to what I want and what I offer because I know what I deserve. What about you? Be Blessed Good People! - J. Jeraude
Posted on: Tue, 29 Jul 2014 11:40:44 +0000
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