Understanding and helping a friend or relative in an abusive relationship. A domestic violence victim is already unsure of his or her worth. An abuser can easily manipulate a domestic violence victim to believe that he or she is really the bad one and deserves what he or she gets. So when dealing with someone who is already unstable and fragile from long bouts of domestic violence, its important to proceed very carefully. Here are some things NOT to say or do to a domestic violence victim: Dont shame the victim by even IMPLYING that the abuse is your loved ones fault. Dont criticize your abused loved one or try to guilt him or her into leaving. Its unfair and its not your job. While its hard to sit by and watch a loved one be abused, it is up to him or her to decide to make the change. Dont tell the victim If it was me, Id kick him/her out, just leave, call the cops, etc. Unless youre the one being abused, you have no idea how bad it can get. A significant number of abused women are killed by their abuser after they leave or attempt to leave. Escape can be extremely difficult. Do NOT blame the victim for the domestic abuse. Never, EVER insinuate that it is his or her fault that he or she is being abused. Dont imply that leaving a domestically abusive relationship is easy. There are no quick, easy solutions. Dont recommend marital counseling to someone who is being physically or emotionally abused. Its dangerous for the victim and wont lead to a resolution. Things NOT To Say To A Domestic Violence Victim: You should leave now. You should go back into the (abusive situation) and try a little harder. How about *I* talk to your [abusive] partner for you? You should stay for your childrens sake. - See more at: bandbacktogether/how-to-help-friend-abusive-relationship/#sthash.uyUBDKln.dpuf
Posted on: Sun, 24 Aug 2014 03:20:38 +0000
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