Want to share my thoughts before I go crazy.... Hello aunty Abefe, Am a lady of 25yrs and i have had my share of good and bad relationships. I have a boyfriend (hes had his own share of bad relationship, his girlfriend of 8yrs broke up wit him) who says/claims he loves me though i do not get freaked by that probably because of my past relationships. But this guy has got a lady friend whom they are very close, infact they have known each other for a while now before we started out. Myself and the guy were introduced by our mutual family friends (when he was really determined to get a lady he wants to marry) to each other towards the end of my programme abroad, he begged me not to go back and as at then as I had the option of applying for another programme which i did. Just before we were introduced i had just concluded fasting and prayer concerning relationship life, it was after 3weeks of that, we were introduced. We started out really well on the phone. As at our first visit and meeting (because we do not live in the same cities here in the UK) there was this recurrent face of a lady in the gallery, I didnt make a fuss about it until i snoop around the phone (i admit its wrong to do that) and got to know it seemed they were dating; telling her he loves her, she calls everyday and chats like almost every time, messages and whatsapp (the lady is seperated from her husband and shes got a child) and it seemed my world was crashing, someone i was already having feelings for with all this. He didnt feel comfortable with the attitude afterwards, he felt threatened i was going to end the friendship turned relationship, he kept on apologising that its not like that, shes going through a tough time and he needs to be there for her as friends. That even tell the babe his not ready to get married for now but he wants to and its me he wants. Fastforward, after a while, i needed to give a space because i felt i was beginning to like him too much, he of cause noticed and apologised kept apologising and all. Within that my pastor called me to stand in gap spiritually for him concerning a better job. To be honest i didnt want to, i kept asking myself if he is really worth it, but i did it, with openess. Hes not like hes rich or something, we manage (believing God to make things better), i help most times with finances, discomfort myself just to help him though sometimes i feel used (because its happened in my previous). I went to visit and didnt touch his phones, didnt even worry about it but as i was about to open my mail i stumbled on his mail and saw a flight booking he made since january to visit the same ladys location (guess i forgot to mention he saw the lady around the first time we saw, he had family function to do in her city and they saw afterwards - he already booked the ticket before we started out, he claimed he was broke and i had to pay for him to come to where i was) which happens to be the following week i left him. This is someone that has been telling me hes really serious about me, told his folks to meet up with me because i will going home next month for holiday. He even said his folks will be coming to see my dad for me to be convinced hes serious. He cant travel as job is unstable finance wise, and ticket is now expensive to afford. I got mine earlier because i knew i was going to travel this year. Now my question is should i confront him about the ticket to the ladys location since he has not mentioned to me about any trip or pretend as if i didnt see it, and end the relationship when am gone from here. Any other general advices will be appreciated. Thanks in anticipation ####################### No insults, no abuse, no curses, no sarcastic comments and please remain within the storyline constructively.. Thank you for your constructive opinion...
Posted on: Sat, 15 Mar 2014 13:08:58 +0000
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